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threadbaremom
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What is the name of your state? Utah-however i moved here from Cali after we separated.
i am very scared of getting a divorce. i kicked him out after my then 6 yr old tried to cover my head with her arms/body to protect me. i called 911 so he bailed. fine anyways, on our first trip to court, the mediations investigation showed that social services had substantiated him as having molested 2 of his mom's friends kids, that freaked me out. because this had happened right before we got back together a few yrs prior to us getting married. so i put my daughter in therapy and was told not to ask. well anyways i finally did ask (wht mom wouldnt?) and was told that he has on several occasions touched and even once had her watch pornos. i freaked out obviously and took her straight to the police (big mistake in california). social services then substantiated the accusations (police asked him, then said there wasnt any physical evidence-thnk gd he didnt penetrate her-and refused to press charges against him).....anyways, after a year of constant harassment - even with a protective order/restraining order - i moved to utah to get some peace in our lives. i went to the court clerk and asked wht to do for a divorce and she said that i shouldn't get one without a lawyer because a judge wouldnt care that california wont let him near my kids without court supervision, the judge would only not let him near them if he had been charged. so if i get a div. then i am afraid that he will get to have my children unprotected. i want a divorce very badly but have to protect my children. wht should i do?????????please help me.
i am very scared of getting a divorce. i kicked him out after my then 6 yr old tried to cover my head with her arms/body to protect me. i called 911 so he bailed. fine anyways, on our first trip to court, the mediations investigation showed that social services had substantiated him as having molested 2 of his mom's friends kids, that freaked me out. because this had happened right before we got back together a few yrs prior to us getting married. so i put my daughter in therapy and was told not to ask. well anyways i finally did ask (wht mom wouldnt?) and was told that he has on several occasions touched and even once had her watch pornos. i freaked out obviously and took her straight to the police (big mistake in california). social services then substantiated the accusations (police asked him, then said there wasnt any physical evidence-thnk gd he didnt penetrate her-and refused to press charges against him).....anyways, after a year of constant harassment - even with a protective order/restraining order - i moved to utah to get some peace in our lives. i went to the court clerk and asked wht to do for a divorce and she said that i shouldn't get one without a lawyer because a judge wouldnt care that california wont let him near my kids without court supervision, the judge would only not let him near them if he had been charged. so if i get a div. then i am afraid that he will get to have my children unprotected. i want a divorce very badly but have to protect my children. wht should i do?????????please help me.