Separation Agreement Woes

[LdiJ]

Back to the septic situation.

It was an emergency which required emergency repairs. She had no choice but to get it dealt with quickly. Its a gross violation of the health codes to have raw sewage backing up into a home.

She did her best to notify him, and unless he is a contractor himself, he certainly was NOT qualified to do the work.

So back off on her about the septic system guys and gals.

[Ohiogal]

Actually Ldij it would not have been an emergency if she had been properly maintaining the septic system. And it would nto have been a repair cost if it had been pumped properly. SO truthfully hubby has an argument why he should not be forced to pay. When you own a home with a septic system and are living there then you should know it needs to be pumped on a regular basis. These damages may be directly attributed to her actions and therefore hubby may not have to pay her a dime on it.

[eamille3]

Thank you to LdiJ. And to Bali Hai, our children and I have been and continue to be the victims. Living with an extreme sociopath takes its toll.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by eamille3

Thank you to LdiJ. And to Bali Hai, our children and I have been and continue to be the victims. Living with an extreme sociopath takes its toll.

I understand, not only are you an expert on what repairs are needed to sell your house, you are also a psychologist.

Do you have a list of the repair items and the cost?

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Ohiogal

Actually Ldij it would not have been an emergency if she had been properly maintaining the septic system. And it would nto have been a repair cost if it had been pumped properly. SO truthfully hubby has an argument why he should not be forced to pay. When you own a home with a septic system and are living there then you should know it needs to be pumped on a regular basis. These damages may be directly attributed to her actions and therefore hubby may not have to pay her a dime on it.

As she stated, it hadn't been pumped since 1993. They have only been separated for a year. Its just as much his fault as hers that it hadn't been pumped.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

As she stated, it hadn't been pumped since 1993. They have only been separated for a year. Its just as much his fault as hers that it hadn't been pumped.

How do you know this??

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

How do you know this??

That was just plain a dumb question Bali.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

That was just plain a dumb question Bali.

A dumb question following a dumb assumption.

If you like assumptions: I have reason to believe they have been separated longer than 1 year and that the husband notified the wife in writing to get the septic tank pumped long before the system failed.

[eamille3]

We haven't been separated for a year and the only notification of repairs were done by me. It also specifically states in the agreement that he is to arrange and pay for the furnace maintenence and hasn't done that. I emailed him last night to say that I would be buying the house and his response was that it's not my decision (even though that option is stated in the agreement). So now what do I do**************.wait to hear from his lawyer?
I certainly didn't expect such unbelievable sarcasm from this site.

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

As she stated, it hadn't been pumped since 1993. They have only been separated for a year. Its just as much his fault as hers that it hadn't been pumped.

Actually, many septic systems can go for years without being pumped. If they are maintained properly. That means organic enzymes, not flushing paper products and a number of other things. It is hardly the absent husband's responsiblity to ask on a daily basis how the toilet is flushing

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by eamille3

We haven't been separated for a year and the only notification of repairs were done by me. It also specifically states in the agreement that he is to arrange and pay for the furnace maintenence and hasn't done that. I emailed him last night to say that I would be buying the house and his response was that it's not my decision (even though that option is stated in the agreement). So now what do I do**************.wait to hear from his lawyer?
I certainly didn't expect such unbelievable sarcasm from this site.

So then why did you not notify him of that need by RRR mail, give him a time limit, and then have the repair done yourself and send him a bill. Really, if it starts to rain, do you sit there and wait for someone else to open an umbrella for you??

As for the sarcasm, it's free as well.

Hey Bali, why don't you pm???

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by eamille3

We haven't been separated for a year and the only notification of repairs were done by me. It also specifically states in the agreement that he is to arrange and pay for the furnace maintenence and hasn't done that.

Well winter is almost over anyway. But, an agreement is an agreement. How did you manage the winter with a broken furnace?

I emailed him last night to say that I would be buying the house and his response was that it's not my decision (even though that option is stated in the agreement). So now what do I do**************.wait to hear from his lawyer?
I certainly didn't expect such unbelievable sarcasm from this site.

Why do you care how he responds?

Get the place appraised by a professional appraiser. (not a real estate saleperson) Get the loan approved. He will need to sign a quitclaim deed drawn up by your lawyer. At the closing, you give him his share of equity and he gives you the signed deed.

Congratulations on your decision to buy him out.

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

Why do you care how he responds?

Get the place appraised by a professional appraiser. (not a real estate saleperson) Get the loan approved. He will need to sign a quitclaim deed drawn up by your lawyer. At the closing, you give him his share of equity and he gives you the signed deed.

Congratulations on your decision to buy him out.

Hey, I am talking to you!!!!

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by fairisfair

So then why did you not notify him of that need by RRR mail, give him a time limit, and then have the repair done yourself and send him a bill. Really, if it starts to rain, do you sit there and wait for someone else to open an umbrella for you??

As for the sarcasm, it's free as well.

Hey Bali, why don't you pm???

What do you mean?

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

What do you mean?

private message, you are not set up to private message. go to user CP and edit options, click on private message. oh, of course, that is by your choice.