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My husband and i were married for 20 years, and have 6 kids together. 5 are under the age of 18, and 1 just turned 18. He left last week and he has not been over since, he is living with his GF now. He has many problems (drinking, gambling) and has for the last 6 years. He had said he would continue to give me his paycheck from his main job (he has two jobs) so that we could continue to EAT while the divorce went through. When i recieved his paycheck today however, there was a 100 dollar deduction from it. So he's lying to me about that, and won't talk to me about any of it. I won't have enough money to pay our bills if he takes out 400 a month (4 checks). I've been talking to a few lawyers and am getting conflicting answers.
Question 1: I make around 400-500 a month doing proofreading out of my home so i can take care of the kids while still making some money (2 are UNDER school age). He makes around 3500 a month NET from both of his jobs. If the child support isn't enough for me to support the kids, is it reasonable for me to ask for alimony? Is it true that you cannot take more than 50% of his income no matter what in alimony + child support??
Question 2: My daughter just turned 18 and wants to start college in the fall after she graduates highschool. Would it be better for her to try to get money from him, or just apply as an individual for financial aid, etc??
Question 3: Will it make a difference that I can't reasonably hold down a full time job with 6 kids, 5 of whom have Asthma and are chronically sick, sometimes for 2-3 weeks at a time? I have checked and a day care center WILL NOT take them when they are sick for 2-3 weeks, so i would need to take off work during that time. It just isn't feasible. Will this help me to get alimony, etc.?
Question 4: My husband has around 6,000 in his own credit card debts, and i have one in my name. I had 500 dollars legitamately charged on it, then he stole it and charged more onto it. Will i have to pay this when the divorce goes through or can it be arranged that he will have to pay the part that he put onto it?
My husband and i were married for 20 years, and have 6 kids together. 5 are under the age of 18, and 1 just turned 18. He left last week and he has not been over since, he is living with his GF now. He has many problems (drinking, gambling) and has for the last 6 years. He had said he would continue to give me his paycheck from his main job (he has two jobs) so that we could continue to EAT while the divorce went through. When i recieved his paycheck today however, there was a 100 dollar deduction from it. So he's lying to me about that, and won't talk to me about any of it. I won't have enough money to pay our bills if he takes out 400 a month (4 checks). I've been talking to a few lawyers and am getting conflicting answers.
Question 1: I make around 400-500 a month doing proofreading out of my home so i can take care of the kids while still making some money (2 are UNDER school age). He makes around 3500 a month NET from both of his jobs. If the child support isn't enough for me to support the kids, is it reasonable for me to ask for alimony? Is it true that you cannot take more than 50% of his income no matter what in alimony + child support??
Question 2: My daughter just turned 18 and wants to start college in the fall after she graduates highschool. Would it be better for her to try to get money from him, or just apply as an individual for financial aid, etc??
Question 3: Will it make a difference that I can't reasonably hold down a full time job with 6 kids, 5 of whom have Asthma and are chronically sick, sometimes for 2-3 weeks at a time? I have checked and a day care center WILL NOT take them when they are sick for 2-3 weeks, so i would need to take off work during that time. It just isn't feasible. Will this help me to get alimony, etc.?
Question 4: My husband has around 6,000 in his own credit card debts, and i have one in my name. I had 500 dollars legitamately charged on it, then he stole it and charged more onto it. Will i have to pay this when the divorce goes through or can it be arranged that he will have to pay the part that he put onto it?
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Now he's taking an additional $400/month from the one he HAD been giving to me. the amount of the one i HAD been getting was $2440/monthly total, and now it is down to $2040/month.