What is the name of your state? Florida
Right now, I'm quite speechless, but I think I need to ask some questions.
My wife, a Russian, and I have been married for just over a year. She recently obtained her green card due to our marriage. She is currently back in Russia visiting family.
Last week, I called her and she indicated that she wants me to consider divorcing her. I was very upset, of course, as I love her more than life itself. I've been trying to figure out what I've done wrong and how to get her back here to work things out.
Today, I happened to see some pictures on our roommate's laptop (our roommate is her best friend). In fact, I found about 250 pictures of her and her ex-boyfriend. Apparently, all of the Sunday shopping trips (her day off) she's been taking have been trips with her ex-boyfriend to the beach, on cruises, and even shopping sometimes. The beach pictures show that they are a lot more than just friends.
I am so furious right now that i can hardly think. Whatever happens, I want it to be as detrimental to her as possible (ie, not get off easy at all). I'd like suggestions of what would do the most damage to her, including the possibility of jail time.
Here are some facts:
1) She got her green card 1 month ago, based on our marriage. Right off the bat, we have to stay married for 2 more years for it to be valid. I doubt that's going to happen. She would have to prove that the marriage is bona-fide if she has any way to avoid the 2-year requirement.
2) I just finished spending about $10000 on rebuilding her mouth (dental work) because Russian dentistry is so bad. I will be paying on this for at least the next 4 years.
3) She is currently in Russia, on a trip visiting her parents. She's supposed to come back next month, although she was telling me during the divorce discussion that she wants to stay in Russia longer. As of today, her official ticket dates have not changed.
4) Before she left for Russia, she spent a LOT of money purchasing gifts for friends back home. Money that is on her personal credit cards (my name is not on them).
5) Last year, when it was time to do taxes, she admitted to me that she allowed "some girl friend" to borrow her SSN to use to get a job because the person was an illegal. I gave her one hell of a lecture about it. We filed separately, as I didn't want her legal problems to affect my life. I suspect that the person was actually the boyfriend--not "some girl friend."
6) Please don't laugh or make any hurtful remarks, please--this is a very sensitive and sore subject with me: the marriage was never consummated. I know it was a sign and everything--I don't want to hear about it....
7) I intend to get some recorded conversation between us where we discuss the situation. The call last week had some very incriminating evidence in it, but I have no recording of it, because I was not expecting any problems.
8) Our roommate is also an illegal and she has 100% knowledge of what is going on--she was the one holding the camera. I intend to make her stay in America shorter than she expects, also.
9) Her current job employs at least one other illegal. They were also in on it, because a) her boss was at our wedding, and b) from the pictures, it's very clear that her boss knows about her boyfriend.
10) Based on the date stamps of the pictures, and the clothing that she was wearing, all of the pictures are recent.
11) Our roommate has a job--she's employed and is illegal. I should turn them in, too, I think.
Another idea I have--the ultimate revenge would be that she be deported and her boyfriend stays here. Sure, he could go back, but I don't think he will. 11,000 miles of distance between the two would be good revenge...
So, what exactly should I do? Wait for her to return to America? Contact the SSA? Definitely, I need to contact the INS, but when would be the proper timing? Contact the INS about her boyfriend? Honestly, I really would like to have her back here so I can severely grill her about what she's done and make her feel like the poor excuse of a person that she is. THEN, have them come and get her. I'm also concerned that she may try to run when she gets back to America if I don't keep my cool long enough to get her back here.
I really never wanted to have to do anything to hurt her. I love her (or at least I did). Right now, I hate her because she's putting me in the position where I have to do this to her!
Thoughts?
Right now, I'm quite speechless, but I think I need to ask some questions.
My wife, a Russian, and I have been married for just over a year. She recently obtained her green card due to our marriage. She is currently back in Russia visiting family.
Last week, I called her and she indicated that she wants me to consider divorcing her. I was very upset, of course, as I love her more than life itself. I've been trying to figure out what I've done wrong and how to get her back here to work things out.
Today, I happened to see some pictures on our roommate's laptop (our roommate is her best friend). In fact, I found about 250 pictures of her and her ex-boyfriend. Apparently, all of the Sunday shopping trips (her day off) she's been taking have been trips with her ex-boyfriend to the beach, on cruises, and even shopping sometimes. The beach pictures show that they are a lot more than just friends.
I am so furious right now that i can hardly think. Whatever happens, I want it to be as detrimental to her as possible (ie, not get off easy at all). I'd like suggestions of what would do the most damage to her, including the possibility of jail time.
Here are some facts:
1) She got her green card 1 month ago, based on our marriage. Right off the bat, we have to stay married for 2 more years for it to be valid. I doubt that's going to happen. She would have to prove that the marriage is bona-fide if she has any way to avoid the 2-year requirement.
2) I just finished spending about $10000 on rebuilding her mouth (dental work) because Russian dentistry is so bad. I will be paying on this for at least the next 4 years.
3) She is currently in Russia, on a trip visiting her parents. She's supposed to come back next month, although she was telling me during the divorce discussion that she wants to stay in Russia longer. As of today, her official ticket dates have not changed.
4) Before she left for Russia, she spent a LOT of money purchasing gifts for friends back home. Money that is on her personal credit cards (my name is not on them).
5) Last year, when it was time to do taxes, she admitted to me that she allowed "some girl friend" to borrow her SSN to use to get a job because the person was an illegal. I gave her one hell of a lecture about it. We filed separately, as I didn't want her legal problems to affect my life. I suspect that the person was actually the boyfriend--not "some girl friend."
6) Please don't laugh or make any hurtful remarks, please--this is a very sensitive and sore subject with me: the marriage was never consummated. I know it was a sign and everything--I don't want to hear about it....
7) I intend to get some recorded conversation between us where we discuss the situation. The call last week had some very incriminating evidence in it, but I have no recording of it, because I was not expecting any problems.
8) Our roommate is also an illegal and she has 100% knowledge of what is going on--she was the one holding the camera. I intend to make her stay in America shorter than she expects, also.
9) Her current job employs at least one other illegal. They were also in on it, because a) her boss was at our wedding, and b) from the pictures, it's very clear that her boss knows about her boyfriend.
10) Based on the date stamps of the pictures, and the clothing that she was wearing, all of the pictures are recent.
11) Our roommate has a job--she's employed and is illegal. I should turn them in, too, I think.
Another idea I have--the ultimate revenge would be that she be deported and her boyfriend stays here. Sure, he could go back, but I don't think he will. 11,000 miles of distance between the two would be good revenge...
So, what exactly should I do? Wait for her to return to America? Contact the SSA? Definitely, I need to contact the INS, but when would be the proper timing? Contact the INS about her boyfriend? Honestly, I really would like to have her back here so I can severely grill her about what she's done and make her feel like the poor excuse of a person that she is. THEN, have them come and get her. I'm also concerned that she may try to run when she gets back to America if I don't keep my cool long enough to get her back here.
I really never wanted to have to do anything to hurt her. I love her (or at least I did). Right now, I hate her because she's putting me in the position where I have to do this to her!
Thoughts?