Someone I know wants to divorce from a harmful marriage

[Uva121]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Shadowbunny]

Please edit your post (and don't forget the State) and add the relevant details. Just don't use the Preview function, as it eats posts.

 

[Uva121]

For some reason it's not letting me edit my post but my state is Virginia, and it's basically verbal and emotional abuse. He manipulates her and exploits her because he feels like he has the cushy job and can act any way he wants, he is also neglectful with his kids and the one time, literally the one time her family came to visit he ran away to his brothers house leaving her alone with the kids without a warning for almost two days and I can see she's getting extremely fed up and it's taking a toll on her, and she's hesitant to make a move because she's worried about her kids and I just want some advice as to how she could leave him with minimal damage.

 

[Shadowbunny]

For some reason it's not letting me edit my post but my state is Virginia, and it's basically verbal and emotional abuse. He manipulates her and exploits her because he feels like he has the cushy job and can act any way he wants, he is also neglectful with his kids and the one time, literally the one time her family came to visit he ran away to his brothers house leaving her alone with the kids without a warning for almost two days and I can see she's getting extremely fed up and it's taking a toll on her, and she's hesitant to make a move because she's worried about her kids and I just want some advice as to how she could leave him with minimal damage.

It's generally best for the person involved to make their own account, as third-parties rarely have all the necessary information. That said, what kind of "damage" are you referring to? Because she can file for divorce, (with or without an attorney), and there will most likely be a custody battle. Divorces can be time-consuming, expensive, and emotionally draining. Unless both parties are extremely mature and focused on what's best for the kids, rarely are damages minimal.

 

[Uva121]

Damage as in for the kids, and that makes sense, I was just curious about the options. Thank you for the advice.

 

[stealth2]

Wow. Left alone with family and her two kids for two days??? She's going to have a tough time as a custodial parent...

Seriously - she needs to decide for herself what she wants to do. And develop a game plan. How old are their kids?

 

[LdiJ]

Wow. Left alone with family and her two kids for two days??? She's going to have a tough time as a custodial parent...

Seriously - she needs to decide for herself what she wants to do. And develop a game plan. How old are their kids?

Until you said that, I had taken that part as purely a comment on the rudeness of bailing on his inlaw's visit. However if she cannot handle her family (who would be considered a help rather than a hindrance in most cases) and her children at the same time, then there is more wrong than the OP realizes.

 

[stealth2]

Until you said that, I had taken that part as purely a comment on the rudeness of bailing on his inlaw's visit. However if she cannot handle her family (who would be considered a help rather than a hindrance in most cases) and her children at the same time, then there is more wrong than the OP realizes.

LOL My ex would bail when HIS mother came to visit.