First, allow me to explain the current situation. My wife is active duty army since 2006, and I am former military since 2003. We have been married 10 years and have 2 children...4 and 8 and have been here at Fort Campbell, KY since Jan 2007. In the beginning of 2008, she deployed to the middle east, and we agreed that I would stay home and take care of the kids while she was gone. It was a challenge, beccause for the 4 years prior, I had been a civilian contractor working in the middle east. My wife returned in early 2009 and shortly after, I found out that she had been having an affair while she was deployed. Of course, I was hurt and angry, even more so because her chain of command knew about it and covered it up. We agreed to try and work past it, but things haven't gone that way. We became more like roomates rather than husband and wife, and the anger and hurt hasn't gone away. Since she's been back, I have been unable to find work, and I suspect that she despises me for it. Regardless, a few months ago, I asked her what exactly was happening between us...distant, bickering, avoiding each other, etc. and it boiled down to the fact that she wants a divorce. I agreed because we simply couldn't go on the way things were. I went the very next day to an army recruiter to re enlist, and though Im eligible, I needed to lose a few percent body fat. Since then, I've been doing it and Im very nearly there, but its not happening fast enough for her and she wants me out of the house ASAP. I've never done drugs, obviously, Im not a drunk, I've never laid a hand on herin anger, Im a good father, andeach day until I leave, I play Martha Stewart...the kids meals, laundry, cleaning, etc. Weve discussed the divorce and agreed that she gets physical custody, the car, the animals, all the furniture, and I will be the one to start over. I am fine with what we have agreed...its more for the kids well being than anyrhing else. We won't actually file until I have enlisted and away to wherever the Army sends me. Over the course of the last month, shes has made it clear that my enlistment goal isn't happening quikly enough, and has become snide and insulting about my employment status. Today, she gave me MY 2 week notice...to move out. Period.
What are my rights here? Can she do that? She tells me that her chain of command keeps pressuring her to get rid of me, which I find fishy. If I try to fight it, she has hinted that the MP's (military police) would believe her over me and haul me away in shackles should she claim that I hit her, or some other ridiculously false claim, and I believe it, not only because I've seen it happen, but she is spiteful enough and wants me gone badly enough to do it. So what do I do? I am nearly there...myfinal goal is Nov 1st, but I just may be homeless by then, or in jail over a false abuse claim.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.