DogLoverOf3
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Utah
My history before him: Divorced for 20 years. 1 child. 100% self sufficient, no child support or alimony. In 1997 my Father needed to move to a warmer climate. I bought his home, he gifted me $73k of the value with the agreement if he got sick again he would come back and live with me so I could care for him. He passed away in 1999 and I inherited over $80k in stock which I invested in gold and gemstones. I am currently in my middle 40's.
In 2003 I met my STBX. Currently early 50's. He explained his lack of assets due to horrible divorce with his second wife, whom is now married to his brother. He said they had had an affair and taken him to the cleaners. However, he had a very respectible job with the State of UT and was highly recognized for his short 1 1/2 in service, after relocating to SLC from another County.
Before marrying in 12/04, I gingerly approached him regarding a prenup but dropped it when he started crying, saying "Don't you trust me". We got married, 1 month later refinanced my home to pay off joint debts and clear his credit to obtain security clearance. He soon left the State to work for another Company in Gov. Contracting. We sold my home and bought a larger one. We set up a home office, he traveled extensively to DC, I quit my job to help him build several 8a Companies and his income soared. Then I discovered the porn. Then he password protected his laptop. Then a year later while having access to his laptop discovered the escorts.
The slow pattern of his abuse stripped me of my independence and spirit. Everytime I tried to leave he manipulated and terrorized me.
In March I tested positive for herpes, threatened him with the police if he didn't leave and filed for divorce. Two days before our first court date, which was this week, I finally received his response to my complaint which stated that he had tested positive for herpes back in 12/04 (when, at my request, we both had physicals and blood testing before the wedding) and that he had gotten it from me! It also said that my medical records would show that I had been previously treated for a STD. Not true!!
In 12/04, he told me his tests were negative and that he got a clean bill of health. Isn't this fraud or proof to deceive? I have found 3 old girlfriends willing to testify that he stole money from them and used their credit cards without their permission. And also, 1 male friend who has known my husband for 30+ years who has come forward saying he's sick of my husbands abuse of women and is willing to testify that this has been his pattern of abuse for years and is aware of his love for "massage therapists/escorts"
I also want to know if my family physician is liable somehow for not testing me for herpes the past 2 years when I have gone in for my physicals and requested STD scans. HE KNEW my husband had tested positive before we got married, he performed the tests!
My Husband is a narcissist and master manipulator. I finally called his brother, whom I have never talked to before, and found that he paid to put my Husband through 2 drug rehabs for Cocaine (1 costing over $40k) and tried to help him salvage his marry with his 2nd wife. That she too was a good woman he had terribly abused, and that they never became a couple till well after the divorce was final.
I apologize for the length but wanted to detail as much info as I could. Thank youWhat is the name of your state?
My history before him: Divorced for 20 years. 1 child. 100% self sufficient, no child support or alimony. In 1997 my Father needed to move to a warmer climate. I bought his home, he gifted me $73k of the value with the agreement if he got sick again he would come back and live with me so I could care for him. He passed away in 1999 and I inherited over $80k in stock which I invested in gold and gemstones. I am currently in my middle 40's.
In 2003 I met my STBX. Currently early 50's. He explained his lack of assets due to horrible divorce with his second wife, whom is now married to his brother. He said they had had an affair and taken him to the cleaners. However, he had a very respectible job with the State of UT and was highly recognized for his short 1 1/2 in service, after relocating to SLC from another County.
Before marrying in 12/04, I gingerly approached him regarding a prenup but dropped it when he started crying, saying "Don't you trust me". We got married, 1 month later refinanced my home to pay off joint debts and clear his credit to obtain security clearance. He soon left the State to work for another Company in Gov. Contracting. We sold my home and bought a larger one. We set up a home office, he traveled extensively to DC, I quit my job to help him build several 8a Companies and his income soared. Then I discovered the porn. Then he password protected his laptop. Then a year later while having access to his laptop discovered the escorts.
The slow pattern of his abuse stripped me of my independence and spirit. Everytime I tried to leave he manipulated and terrorized me.
In March I tested positive for herpes, threatened him with the police if he didn't leave and filed for divorce. Two days before our first court date, which was this week, I finally received his response to my complaint which stated that he had tested positive for herpes back in 12/04 (when, at my request, we both had physicals and blood testing before the wedding) and that he had gotten it from me! It also said that my medical records would show that I had been previously treated for a STD. Not true!!
In 12/04, he told me his tests were negative and that he got a clean bill of health. Isn't this fraud or proof to deceive? I have found 3 old girlfriends willing to testify that he stole money from them and used their credit cards without their permission. And also, 1 male friend who has known my husband for 30+ years who has come forward saying he's sick of my husbands abuse of women and is willing to testify that this has been his pattern of abuse for years and is aware of his love for "massage therapists/escorts"
I also want to know if my family physician is liable somehow for not testing me for herpes the past 2 years when I have gone in for my physicals and requested STD scans. HE KNEW my husband had tested positive before we got married, he performed the tests!
My Husband is a narcissist and master manipulator. I finally called his brother, whom I have never talked to before, and found that he paid to put my Husband through 2 drug rehabs for Cocaine (1 costing over $40k) and tried to help him salvage his marry with his 2nd wife. That she too was a good woman he had terribly abused, and that they never became a couple till well after the divorce was final.
I apologize for the length but wanted to detail as much info as I could. Thank youWhat is the name of your state?
