Spouse threatens to 'tell' things to parents

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What is the name of your state? Colorado

My wife and I separated in May of this year, 2004, and because we both had financial problems, we had not filed for divorce yet. I had to sell my house to get out of financial problems and recently did so.

Since we have already divided the property and she took most everything we acquired together, I felt everything was basically settled except for the actual filing and disolution. I have now begun the filing process just a few days ago, but just received a threatening phone call message this morning from my soon to be ex wife.

She has threatened to blackmail me by passing on private personal information about me to my parents if I dont agree to give her money from the sale of this house. This is just private information I divulged to her in confidence, nothing Illegal, but things I would definitely prefer my father not know about.

We have been married 3 1/2 years, but have separated 3 times for months at a time. So all total she has only lived with me for about 1.5 years, or less. And during that time she never attempted to help me make the house payments, even when things were tough. But when we first moved in together I made her payment for about 8 months, at about $880.00 a month, plus I spent $700.00 on fixing it up, and a full 40+ hours of my time. But when her house sold, I never received anything from her. And now she wants to extort money from me when my house sold.

My question is, what can I do to stop this, and is there any possible legal charges I could file against her for doing this, if I need to. Isnt there laws against blackmailing someone, even if it's your husband.

Thank you

[4ARMADILLOS]

CA

Well, she is intitled to half the house anyways right? Dont answer the phone Just file the paperwork before she wants to shange what is said in writing. Once it is filed she doesnt get what isnt on the settlement agreement. If shes mad at you for some reason she might even tell after you give her the $$ just to spite you. Oh and no legal process can stop her from telling the truth. only lies after she said it. a

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I'm not really wondering how to stop her from telling someone private things, but more on how to stop her from blackmailing me. Her telling me that if I dont pay that she will tell my father certain things is blackmail, and should be illegal.

Once before, she filed for divorve, and later we cancelled it. When she filed that time, she didnt want any equity from the house, because she knew she hadnt earned it. I feel she still knows she didnt do anything to help build equity in the house, even when she worked full time, and got these $3,500 bonus checks each December (which I wasnt allowed to spend any of). So she could have, but chose not to, so now she's resorting to blackmail.

I've tried to be very fair with her, giving her much more than I felt was fair when we split. So she is desperate, and greedy.