I'm posting this for a friend of mine, she is afraid that her husband will find the link on the computer. Everything is in her words though.
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
My husband demanded a divorce on 4/25 out of the blue. He claims that I do not look after our two children well enough. He states that the marriage is "broken" and "cannot be fixed". He made no mention of this prior at any other time in our marriage. He went to an out of state wedding on the 16th and wasn't going to be back until the 20th. When he came home he was completely different. He was very quiet, sullen, when i asked him repeatedly what was the matter he brushed me off stating he was tired from work or he wasn't feeling well. On the 24th after work he was supposed to drop off the rent to his parents and come back home. He stayed there for over two hours. I called him twice asking if everything was ok and when he would be home.
From his parents telling me, he apparently just sat there and was staring off and making idle conversation. When he demanded a divorce the following day he claims that the child safety plugs for outlets that one of them was on the floor and both children were playing with it. This is not true because I had our son in his crib so he wouldn't wander while I was going up and down the stairs with laundry and getting the children bottles of milk. After he declared he wants the divorce he also stated he wants full custody of both children. I was in complete shock and didn't know what to do. He then took both children and left the house. He apparently called off work and instead called his mother asking to bring both kids to the house. My mother-in-law, worried that something was wrong asked if I was ok. He told her yes she was at the house and asked to bring the kids over to their house. She allowed it and then left her work to drive home and find out what had actually happened.
That is when he told her. I'm completely at a loss. We don't smoke, do drugs or drink a lot. He claims he's been thinking this for a year and that if things don't change for him he will divorce me. He's threatened to get full custody of the kids only to later on state he's worked out what would be joint custody. He's also said that when this divorce settles there'll be little if any money anyone has to pay to the other person in regards to any kind of child or spousal support. He's demanded multiple time for me to write down everything in the house that I want and give it to him. I am not signing anything out and giving it to him. He's also threatened to call the police if I take the car without giving him a notice ahead of time of where I'm going and how long I'm going to be there and who I'll be with.
Both the full custody, car, also stating he wants full residential custody each time he's come back to me the next few days either changing his mind or disregarding the threats he made prior. I work part time to only supplement the income so we can get by and cover all our children's needs. In January of this year I donated my car to Volunteers of America because it wasn't running at the time and I thought we can do with just one car as seeing I stay home 5 days with the children and he goes to work with the car. The children are taken care of on Sundays while he works and he only watches them one true day which are Mondays. He claims that he does a better job of looking after their needs than I do the remaining 5 days. I do the cooking (I've never seen him cook anything besides macaroni and cheese), cleaning, I bathe, feed, change them. I am bilingual and I'm also teaching the children from birth and trying to educate them in both languages.
I cannot get a lawyer or anyone to represent me. With my paycheck after my half of the rent and health insurance being taken out I have less than $100 to last until my next paycheck. This would mean I have gas to put in the car for when I go to and from work, diapers, wipes, and some kind of food. I get paid only twice a month. I cannot get legal representation through work because it requires you to sign up and that is once a year at the beginning of the year. Other lawyers cannot help because they don't practice law in my county. I've contacted both the Legal Aid Society and the Bar Association both of which who cannot help me because they're over their maximum cases they're allowed to work. There are lawyers who can help but I need to fork over thousands of dollars as a retainer upfront and a filing fee. I don't understand how my husband was able to retain a lawyer and have these documents produced unless he had money stashed away somewhere or his parents are paying for this. He still lives under the same roof as me although he sleeps on the couch downstairs. His behavior is erratic where he could be almost pleasant now to being completely passively cruel and sarcasm and disdain dripping from each word.
I was served with the summons on 6/12 and I've been trying to find someone to help represent me and am unable. I'm terrified if I fill this out on my own and mess up his lawyer will find some way to fulfill his wishes and have him get full custody of the children not to mention (if I understand this correctly) the document also states he demands I pay for the entire divorce. They've also frozen our tax return, so I can't access that either, that and the stimulus. In the documentation it also says I cannot make any banking transactions or buy things that are out of the ordinary. That I don't have access to spending it on things I was planning to do with it.
Our son just turned 1 this year and our daughter will be 3 in the summer.
If I understand correctly the summons needs to be submitted in 28 days. I'm now at the end of the rope and it is due soon. If I can get any help on this I'd appreciate it. Thanks.
Sorry it's so long, I just wanted to be able to give you guys a good background to go on.
Again, thank you for any help you are willing to give me.
-Karis
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
My husband demanded a divorce on 4/25 out of the blue. He claims that I do not look after our two children well enough. He states that the marriage is "broken" and "cannot be fixed". He made no mention of this prior at any other time in our marriage. He went to an out of state wedding on the 16th and wasn't going to be back until the 20th. When he came home he was completely different. He was very quiet, sullen, when i asked him repeatedly what was the matter he brushed me off stating he was tired from work or he wasn't feeling well. On the 24th after work he was supposed to drop off the rent to his parents and come back home. He stayed there for over two hours. I called him twice asking if everything was ok and when he would be home.
From his parents telling me, he apparently just sat there and was staring off and making idle conversation. When he demanded a divorce the following day he claims that the child safety plugs for outlets that one of them was on the floor and both children were playing with it. This is not true because I had our son in his crib so he wouldn't wander while I was going up and down the stairs with laundry and getting the children bottles of milk. After he declared he wants the divorce he also stated he wants full custody of both children. I was in complete shock and didn't know what to do. He then took both children and left the house. He apparently called off work and instead called his mother asking to bring both kids to the house. My mother-in-law, worried that something was wrong asked if I was ok. He told her yes she was at the house and asked to bring the kids over to their house. She allowed it and then left her work to drive home and find out what had actually happened.
That is when he told her. I'm completely at a loss. We don't smoke, do drugs or drink a lot. He claims he's been thinking this for a year and that if things don't change for him he will divorce me. He's threatened to get full custody of the kids only to later on state he's worked out what would be joint custody. He's also said that when this divorce settles there'll be little if any money anyone has to pay to the other person in regards to any kind of child or spousal support. He's demanded multiple time for me to write down everything in the house that I want and give it to him. I am not signing anything out and giving it to him. He's also threatened to call the police if I take the car without giving him a notice ahead of time of where I'm going and how long I'm going to be there and who I'll be with.
Both the full custody, car, also stating he wants full residential custody each time he's come back to me the next few days either changing his mind or disregarding the threats he made prior. I work part time to only supplement the income so we can get by and cover all our children's needs. In January of this year I donated my car to Volunteers of America because it wasn't running at the time and I thought we can do with just one car as seeing I stay home 5 days with the children and he goes to work with the car. The children are taken care of on Sundays while he works and he only watches them one true day which are Mondays. He claims that he does a better job of looking after their needs than I do the remaining 5 days. I do the cooking (I've never seen him cook anything besides macaroni and cheese), cleaning, I bathe, feed, change them. I am bilingual and I'm also teaching the children from birth and trying to educate them in both languages.
I cannot get a lawyer or anyone to represent me. With my paycheck after my half of the rent and health insurance being taken out I have less than $100 to last until my next paycheck. This would mean I have gas to put in the car for when I go to and from work, diapers, wipes, and some kind of food. I get paid only twice a month. I cannot get legal representation through work because it requires you to sign up and that is once a year at the beginning of the year. Other lawyers cannot help because they don't practice law in my county. I've contacted both the Legal Aid Society and the Bar Association both of which who cannot help me because they're over their maximum cases they're allowed to work. There are lawyers who can help but I need to fork over thousands of dollars as a retainer upfront and a filing fee. I don't understand how my husband was able to retain a lawyer and have these documents produced unless he had money stashed away somewhere or his parents are paying for this. He still lives under the same roof as me although he sleeps on the couch downstairs. His behavior is erratic where he could be almost pleasant now to being completely passively cruel and sarcasm and disdain dripping from each word.
I was served with the summons on 6/12 and I've been trying to find someone to help represent me and am unable. I'm terrified if I fill this out on my own and mess up his lawyer will find some way to fulfill his wishes and have him get full custody of the children not to mention (if I understand this correctly) the document also states he demands I pay for the entire divorce. They've also frozen our tax return, so I can't access that either, that and the stimulus. In the documentation it also says I cannot make any banking transactions or buy things that are out of the ordinary. That I don't have access to spending it on things I was planning to do with it.
Our son just turned 1 this year and our daughter will be 3 in the summer.
If I understand correctly the summons needs to be submitted in 28 days. I'm now at the end of the rope and it is due soon. If I can get any help on this I'd appreciate it. Thanks.
Sorry it's so long, I just wanted to be able to give you guys a good background to go on.
Again, thank you for any help you are willing to give me.
-Karis
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