You have said some things within this thread that disturb me just a little.
This seems to indicate that workman's comp no longer finds you disabled. However you continue to find yourself disabled. You do realize that even if you cannot return to work as a fitness instructor, that you will be expected to get a job and support yourself and your kids? You do realize that this could be a contributing factor as to why your wife wants a divorce?
I have been applying to at least 3 jobs per day via the Internet and the local newspaper for the past 6 weeks, since my previous engagement instructing the USMC in cage fighting. Presently, I make about 120.00 per week teaching MMA out of my garage. My wife wants a divorce because she is a CONTROL FREAK.
I doesn't have to be "ugly". You have just as much control as she does in regards to whether or not it gets ugly. For your children's sake, I hope that you do what you can to avoid ugliness.
She began the ugliness by throwing stones at my family in the papers. I have a thick skin, but I will not tolerate disparaging comments about my relatives. Besides, it was her father who molested her at age 9 and made her a frigid fat girl afraid of intimacy.
Your children are 11 and 15 and in school, and your wife works 30 hours per week. Unless those hours are not daytime hours, you can't really claim that you take care of the kids at home.
I answered this in response to someone asking me who took care of them all summer. They went to the gym with me where I was working and wrestled and boxed everyday.
If you can coach sports teams, its going to be difficult for you to claim that you cannot work, particularly if workman's comp says that you are no longer disabled.
I DID NOT say that I couldn't work. I look for work every day. My medical condition is a separate issue.
You keep making statements that indicate that you feel that you are overwhelmed, being treated unfairly, being done a disservice, etc.
I feel that I have been done a disservice by HER LAWYER and HER, dropping papers on me over the holidays and my birthday. (It was calculated)
The reality of things is that whether or not you like it, you are going to get a divorce and often people feel the way that you do when a marriage fails. You need to wrap your head around that and start making plans for how you are going to live the rest of your life and support yourself and your children until they are grown. You can delay things by asking for continuances and things like that, but you are unlikely to delay them very far, and within a fairly short amount of time you are going to get ordered by the courts to leave the marital home.
I was in court all day and it was disheartening. Again, I didn't ask for this, but I'm dealing with it. But the court system only wants to defend the lunatics who are violent and newsworthy.
One things that will have an effect on what will or will not happen is how much money your wife makes working 30 hours per week.