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Old 06-19-2006, 04:08 PM
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Threats made, need advice ASAP!!

What is the name of your state? FL
I have been seperated from my Soon-to-be-Ex (STBX) for over a year (not legally). I just started to date someone and the STBX found out last friday via the girls. He was told that they saw mommy kissing her boyfriend. The STBX doesn't even know who this new guy is but STBX did get some confirmation by seeing a car in my driveway. My neighbor saw STBX and told me STBX didnt just casually drive by my house he drove by and turned around, drove by again and even parked in the driveway. HMM? sounds like stalking to me. Now he is making threats to me: 1. he is going to call Child Services and say the person who is over at my house is doing stuff to the girls. 2. he is going to beat the poop out of my new guy. 3. break into my house b/c he still gets mail there and will start living there again!! But the kicker is STBX said if we were legally seperated he wouldn't care if the new guy came over. What the ? Now I don't know if I should have my new guy over while the girls are there, just so nothing is started. Or just continue to live my life as I was? I'm getting a lawyer now, but he is out of town until next week!! uuugh!! I want to tell STBX to shove it!!What is the name of your state?
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:10 PM
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What is the name of your state? FL
I have been seperated from my Soon-to-be-Ex (STBX) for over a year (not legally). I just started to date someone and the STBX found out last friday via the girls. He was told that they saw mommy kissing her boyfriend. The STBX doesn't even know who this new guy is but STBX did get some confirmation by seeing a car in my driveway. My neighbor saw STBX and told me STBX didnt just casually drive by my house he drove by and turned around, drove by again and even parked in the driveway. HMM? sounds like stalking to me. Now he is making threats to me: 1. he is going to call Child Services and say the person who is over at my house is doing stuff to the girls. 2. he is going to beat the poop out of my new guy. 3. break into my house b/c he still gets mail there and will start living there again!! But the kicker is STBX said if we were legally seperated he wouldn't care if the new guy came over. What the ? Now I don't know if I should have my new guy over while the girls are there, just so nothing is started. Or just continue to live my life as I was? I'm getting a lawyer now, but he is out of town until next week!! uuugh!! I want to tell STBX to shove it!!What is the name of your state?
What is your legal question? If you are asking if you should continue to cheat on your husband, you won't find that answer here.
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:14 PM
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What is your legal question? If you are asking if you should continue to cheat on your husband, you won't find that answer here.
If you read my post correctly I said we have been seperated for over a year, I am in the process of divorcing him. I'm asking if I should worry about his threats. People do move on with their lives and it has taken me over a year to become whole again and want to be happy.
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:15 PM
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file for a restraining order.
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:19 PM
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What is the name of your state? FL
I have been seperated from my Soon-to-be-Ex (STBX) for over a year (not legally). blah bla yadda yaddayadda....more bs...no legal question just want to rant
I see no legal question...and it is NEVER a good idea to have your children around the new booty call especialy when you are cheating on their Daddy.
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:29 PM
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Well, that's very nice for you. But is it really appropriate for your girls to be seeing you kissing, etc with a guy who's not your husband while you're still married? Apart from anything else, it does set you up for potential problems if you get a judge who frowns upon this sort of thing. Most lawyers will tell you not to date until the divorce is final, or to be very, very discreet. I.e. don't kiss in front of the kids.
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:41 PM
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my goodness, what makes everyone think that he is a booty call? He came over for a party and all he did was give me a hug and kiss on the cheek to say hello. (and I say hello to my best girlfriend that way also, omg am I cheating on STBX with her?!!) jeez people get your minds out of the gutter!!
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:49 PM
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my goodness, what makes everyone think that he is a booty call? He came over for a party and all he did was give me a hug and kiss on the cheek to say hello. (and I say hello to my best girlfriend that way also, omg am I cheating on STBX with her?!!) jeez people get your minds out of the gutter!!
Hi, I'm Silverplum, and I'm new here on Planet Earth.

And even I do not believe your latest story.
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:50 PM
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my goodness, what makes everyone think that he is a booty call? He came over for a party and all he did was give me a hug and kiss on the cheek to say hello. (and I say hello to my best girlfriend that way also, omg am I cheating on STBX with her?!!) jeez people get your minds out of the gutter!!
Look princess...you are the one who is having parties and kissing people in front of your children before you are divorced from their father...maybe a bit more discretion in front of your children would be a good idea especialy since it seems your stbx has a bit of a jelouse/mean streak....if you are concerned for your safety get a RO... untill then keep your boyfriend away from your children untill the divorce is final and maybe you will all be able to play nice in the future
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Old 06-19-2006, 04:58 PM
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Just because I'm curious: why on earth would you name yourself "princess mean one?"

Yes, you used the numeral instead of the word, but it's the same meaning.

You *want* folks to think you're mean? And that you refer to yourself as "princess?"
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Old 06-19-2006, 05:06 PM
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Just because I'm curious: why on earth would you name yourself "princess mean one?"

Yes, you used the numeral instead of the word, but it's the same meaning.

You *want* folks to think you're mean? And that you refer to yourself as "princess?"

well, i didn't think using the B word and #1 would be an appropriate username, so i came up with this one b/c my soon to be ex calls me a cold hearted B.

and by the way, for everyones info, the "party" was a get together of my friends and their kids. just b/c i am not with my kids father anymore i can't have a life? no one here knows what happened.
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Old 06-19-2006, 05:10 PM
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I just started to date someone and the STBX found out last friday via the girls. He was told that they saw mommy kissing her boyfriend.
Funny how you never said

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He came over for a party and all he did was give me a hug and kiss on the cheek to say hello.
If my ex were accusing me like yours is, the first thing I'd do is proclaim my "innocence".

Still.... if the girls know he's your b/f (which you state he is), they know too much at this juncture. IMO.
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Old 06-19-2006, 05:16 PM
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well, i didn't think using the B word and #1 would be an appropriate username, so i came up with this one b/c my soon to be ex calls me a cold hearted B.

and by the way, for everyones info, the "party" was a get together of my friends and their kids. just b/c i am not with my kids father anymore i can't have a life? no one here knows what happened.



you have already been given correct advice, file for divorce and file for a restraining order if you sincerely believe that you or your children are in danger.

This bashing of your personal life and choices is the free part.
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Old 06-19-2006, 05:16 PM
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well, i didn't think using the B word and #1 would be an appropriate username, so i came up with this one b/c my soon to be ex calls me a cold hearted B.

and by the way, for everyones info, the "party" was a get together of my friends and their kids. just b/c i am not with my kids father anymore i can't have a life? no one here knows what happened.
You are absolutly aloud to have a life...it is just not a good idea to have your children around your male friend unless/untill your divorce is final...no matter how long it takes...and even then it is best to take things VERY slow

and princess...we only know what you bother to tell us and if you go back and read what you posted you might see where it looks a bit shall we say *off* from the way you intended...also naming yourself *princess*anything tends to make people view things a certin way too besides why on earth would you want to call yourself anything that your stbx calls you
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Old 06-19-2006, 05:53 PM
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If you read my post correctly I said we have been seperated for over a year, I am in the process of divorcing him. I'm asking if I should worry about his threats. People do move on with their lives and it has taken me over a year to become whole again and want to be happy.
Have you even FILED for divorce? Thinking about a divorce is not the same as "in the process of divorcing".
File for divorce (not every divorce lawyer is on vacation this week) and discretly see Mr Bootycall when your kids are not with you. And stay away from mingling (sp) Mr Bootycall with your children until you are a free woman and they can be explained what the heck happened to their family.
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