Thebayfilly
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I live in Washington State, and I am faced with a VERY difficult and VERY confusing situation. I hope that I am posting this in the right spot as I was not sure exactly where I should post this.
Here's the deal
Oct 31st 2006: Boyfriend "Pedro" and I had differences and broke up after being together for 4 years.
Nov 2006: I unknowingly became pregnant with my son "Jack" with a new boyfriend "Cletus".
Jan 2007: "Cletus" and I separated due to a abusive relationship.
Feb 2007: "Pedro" and I resumed our relationship.
Sep 10th 2007: "Jack" was born
Nov 1st 2007: I married "Pedro" and we lived together as a happy little family.
Dec 2007: Paternity testing conducted by DSHS and DCS showed that "Pedro" was not the father of "Jack" and that "Cletus" was indeed his father.
- "Pedro" believed that "Jack" was his and insisted that more testing be done.
Jan 2008: The state patrol had came to my work with an ATF officer and interrogated me over my husbands habits. I learned that he was dealing drugs through my house. They advised me that if I wanted to be safe and keep my son safe that I should eliminate my husband from my household immediately. If I did not follow the advice, I risked losing my son to CPS. I immediately returned home from work with my Boss (also a close friend) and started to pack his crap. When "Pedro" came home from work he was ballistic and was very confrontational. He yelled at me, got verbally abusive and threw a punch at me. He missed me thankfully and hit a cement chimney beside me. My boss immediately called the police and they showed up. The Lewis County Sheriff responded and put him in handcuffs. When they put him in the squad car they came back and explained to me that they could not press charges against him due to compromise in an ongoing investigation. They stayed until he was moved out and made sure he did not come back. (MIND YOU- this all happened in one day)
The next day he came back for more of his belongings, took both of our cars and even raided my fridge. Even though he was going to his fathers. I let him go with all of his crap. He took the TV, our satellite receiver, both cars, our xbox, all the games (over 20 of them), our DVDs, and he left me the couch and table and a fridge ,bed and oven. (We lived in a small apartment sized house) I was fine with this too. I just wanted him gone. I was emotionally devastated that he had chosen to put our family at this risk.
Feb 2008: I had filed for a separation and got my divorce papers. I submitted the separation but failed to get our divorce filed. I had no issues with him what so ever. I started to see other people and eventually I found my current boyfriend "Jason".
March 2008: I became pregnant with my daughter "Jill".
Nov 2008: "Jill" was born. "Pedro" refuses to sign the paternity affidavit stating that he is NOT the father of "Jill". We were still married at the time of conception for "Jill". "Jason" accepts full paternal rights and responsibilities of "Jill" and is rather upset that "Pedro" won't sign papers.
Dec 2008: "Pedro" agrees to sign the affidavit but I can't get ahold of him to get it done.
January 29th 2009: I called "Pedro" to talk about taxes and he said he would not file anything to do with me. Would not give me his Social so that I can file separately and yelled at me, called me profane names and continued to be irrational. I tried to reason with him and it only got worse. Now he wants COMPLETE paternity testing of both children and insists that they are both his. Neither "Jack" no "Jill" are his, and it's been proven once already with "Jack" with a DNA cheek swab. "Jill" was conceived in March. So if she was conceived in March, and "Pedro" was kicked out in January, how could he be the father of my little girl? Sounds like to me "Pedro" needs to check his calendar again. :S
My questions are:
Do I need to do paternity testing again for both of my children?
If Pedro refuses to sign the paternity affidavit- does that mean that he will be the legal father of my little girl jill?
And if he is the legal father of jill, can i collect child support from him?
Also, he left me with all the unpaid bills- can i sue him for his portion of the bills?
How do I go about doing my taxes this year? He refused to do anything- he insists on keeping it all to himself and not helping with my taxes- no ssn or anything.
Is this something that i should have an attorney for for legal rep in court?
I live in Washington State, and I am faced with a VERY difficult and VERY confusing situation. I hope that I am posting this in the right spot as I was not sure exactly where I should post this.
Here's the deal
Oct 31st 2006: Boyfriend "Pedro" and I had differences and broke up after being together for 4 years.
Nov 2006: I unknowingly became pregnant with my son "Jack" with a new boyfriend "Cletus".
Jan 2007: "Cletus" and I separated due to a abusive relationship.
Feb 2007: "Pedro" and I resumed our relationship.
Sep 10th 2007: "Jack" was born
Nov 1st 2007: I married "Pedro" and we lived together as a happy little family.
Dec 2007: Paternity testing conducted by DSHS and DCS showed that "Pedro" was not the father of "Jack" and that "Cletus" was indeed his father.
- "Pedro" believed that "Jack" was his and insisted that more testing be done.
Jan 2008: The state patrol had came to my work with an ATF officer and interrogated me over my husbands habits. I learned that he was dealing drugs through my house. They advised me that if I wanted to be safe and keep my son safe that I should eliminate my husband from my household immediately. If I did not follow the advice, I risked losing my son to CPS. I immediately returned home from work with my Boss (also a close friend) and started to pack his crap. When "Pedro" came home from work he was ballistic and was very confrontational. He yelled at me, got verbally abusive and threw a punch at me. He missed me thankfully and hit a cement chimney beside me. My boss immediately called the police and they showed up. The Lewis County Sheriff responded and put him in handcuffs. When they put him in the squad car they came back and explained to me that they could not press charges against him due to compromise in an ongoing investigation. They stayed until he was moved out and made sure he did not come back. (MIND YOU- this all happened in one day)
The next day he came back for more of his belongings, took both of our cars and even raided my fridge. Even though he was going to his fathers. I let him go with all of his crap. He took the TV, our satellite receiver, both cars, our xbox, all the games (over 20 of them), our DVDs, and he left me the couch and table and a fridge ,bed and oven. (We lived in a small apartment sized house) I was fine with this too. I just wanted him gone. I was emotionally devastated that he had chosen to put our family at this risk.
Feb 2008: I had filed for a separation and got my divorce papers. I submitted the separation but failed to get our divorce filed. I had no issues with him what so ever. I started to see other people and eventually I found my current boyfriend "Jason".
March 2008: I became pregnant with my daughter "Jill".
Nov 2008: "Jill" was born. "Pedro" refuses to sign the paternity affidavit stating that he is NOT the father of "Jill". We were still married at the time of conception for "Jill". "Jason" accepts full paternal rights and responsibilities of "Jill" and is rather upset that "Pedro" won't sign papers.
Dec 2008: "Pedro" agrees to sign the affidavit but I can't get ahold of him to get it done.
January 29th 2009: I called "Pedro" to talk about taxes and he said he would not file anything to do with me. Would not give me his Social so that I can file separately and yelled at me, called me profane names and continued to be irrational. I tried to reason with him and it only got worse. Now he wants COMPLETE paternity testing of both children and insists that they are both his. Neither "Jack" no "Jill" are his, and it's been proven once already with "Jack" with a DNA cheek swab. "Jill" was conceived in March. So if she was conceived in March, and "Pedro" was kicked out in January, how could he be the father of my little girl? Sounds like to me "Pedro" needs to check his calendar again. :S
My questions are:
Do I need to do paternity testing again for both of my children?
If Pedro refuses to sign the paternity affidavit- does that mean that he will be the legal father of my little girl jill?
And if he is the legal father of jill, can i collect child support from him?
Also, he left me with all the unpaid bills- can i sue him for his portion of the bills?
How do I go about doing my taxes this year? He refused to do anything- he insists on keeping it all to himself and not helping with my taxes- no ssn or anything.
Is this something that i should have an attorney for for legal rep in court?