Oh I visited every weekend, and got the same line when I asked when she was coming home...I am just visiting with my folks but I want to move closer to my mother. I'd say fine, as soon as we can afford it and plan for it.
Please check the guidelines on quoting - your response is very hard to follow. Well, if it were me, "I'm just visiting my folks" would have worn thin after a few weeks. It's probably too late to do anything about it now, but at the time, you could possibly have argued that TX didn't have jurisdiction because she said she was visiting and had not changed her residence.
OTOH, if she was having mail sent there and got a driver's license there (which would be evidence of jurisdiction for TX), then you should have known it wasn't a visit. Again, it's probably too late.
Yes I requested it, and was told that since the child was under the age of 3 I couldn't get standard visitation. I got second and fourth
Second and fourth WHAT? If you have second and fourth weekends, that's not that far out of line. If the court proceedings say that your visitation is limited because of the child's age, you can petition for a change as soon as the child is older.
But you didn't answer the rest of the questions:
Is your attorney licensed in TX?
Did the ATTORNEY request more visitation or was that simply you asking?
Why did they initially take away your visitation? Courts generally don't do that on a whim. And how did you get it back?
A LOT depends on the specifics of the situation and if you keep refusing to answer questions, the responses will be worthless.
I lost my job in February 2008, after trying for several months to find something else, I moved in March of 2009. I went to court on the reduction in April of 09 and was told that since I'd been paying it that I could continue to pay it.
YOU went into court or your attorney did so? How specifically did you ask for a reduction? What evidence did you provide? What was the reason for the loss of your job? Do you have that in writing?
She refused to put my name on the childs school enrollment form and didn't tell me where the child was attending school. She has refused to tell me when, where, etc that the child has activities. She has refused to provide me with a home phone number and I only have her mother's phone number. She refused to provide me with her physical address, and I only have her mother's address. She refuses to tell me when the child is sick, or where she takes it to the doctor. She took my son to CA and didn't tell me. She traveled to CA for a week, and left my son with her mother without telling me. I have to call the grandmother's house to talk to my son and he may or may not be there, and they may or may not answer the phone and/or allow me to talk to my son. These are the major things, and there are other things.
Unless there's a court order specifically addressing those things, she's not in contempt. Without a court order, she's free to take the child anywhere in the country she wishes without telling you. She doesn't have to tell you those other things - it's up to you to send the school documentation and ask to be copied on records. Preventing you from talking with your son whenever you wish is not contempt unless the court says she has to. The proper way to deal with that would have been to create a detailed parenting plan which covers school, travel, babysitting, phone conversations, etc. You can't unilaterally tell her that she MUST do what you want her to do. Only the court can do that.
At least part of the problem is that you seem to have an unrealistic view of what your rights are.
This last time she took me to court for failure to pay my child support so I took in a print out from the AGs office to show that I had paid all my child support and owed her nothing until sept 1st, this was on Aug 19th...the judge told me that if I was behind in child support on Dec 1st that she'd toss me in jail when I haven't been behind at all.
I suspect that there's something missing.
OK, you were paid up by the date of the hearing. Were you behind ON THE DATE SHE FILED?
If so, she was entirely within her rights to file. Again, you don't seem to understand your rights OR her rights.
You really should have an attorney working with you. Adversarial divorces are not usually DIY affairs.
