I live in Maine. I have a newly filed divorce on my hands and a minor child age 7 that is not biologically related to me.
Here's a breakdown of what's happened. Child age seven is my husband's biological grandchild. He has sole permanent guardianship of the child due to biological parent's inability to care for the child (past use of drugs, abandonment, etc...) We have equally cared for the child as parents since the age of 2 weeks and legally since I believe about 5 months.
Child refers to me as "Mommy." Child knows biological mother and knows me as her "Mommy that takes care of him/her."
Husband left the child in my sole care and moved an hour away. Currently, child lives with me during the week and most vacations. Child spends every other weekend with Husband and every other weekend with biological mother. Child has attended school in my district and I provide all care and necessities. Husband contributes $200 a month towards care.
Husband first promised to add me as an equal permanent guardian PRIOR to filing for divorce. Now has filed with no mention of the child in the paperwork. Obviously I am extremely worried, if I sign now I have no leverage to ask for guardianship later. Parent de facto status is very rare in Maine and with no biological ties, even rarer.
What are my options here? Can we stipulate in the divorce papers he will proceed to add me as a guardian? Can we seek guardianship at the same time and eliminate the need to have one set of papers signed before the others?
We both seem to want an amicable divorce and since he cheated on me and moved directly into another woman's home, that's rare in itself. I just want to make sure no one is being sneaky and things proceed in a way that no one feels as if something is being held over their head.
Any advice is appreciated. I have limited time to answer the papers. Thank you!!
Here's a breakdown of what's happened. Child age seven is my husband's biological grandchild. He has sole permanent guardianship of the child due to biological parent's inability to care for the child (past use of drugs, abandonment, etc...) We have equally cared for the child as parents since the age of 2 weeks and legally since I believe about 5 months.
Child refers to me as "Mommy." Child knows biological mother and knows me as her "Mommy that takes care of him/her."
Husband left the child in my sole care and moved an hour away. Currently, child lives with me during the week and most vacations. Child spends every other weekend with Husband and every other weekend with biological mother. Child has attended school in my district and I provide all care and necessities. Husband contributes $200 a month towards care.
Husband first promised to add me as an equal permanent guardian PRIOR to filing for divorce. Now has filed with no mention of the child in the paperwork. Obviously I am extremely worried, if I sign now I have no leverage to ask for guardianship later. Parent de facto status is very rare in Maine and with no biological ties, even rarer.
What are my options here? Can we stipulate in the divorce papers he will proceed to add me as a guardian? Can we seek guardianship at the same time and eliminate the need to have one set of papers signed before the others?
We both seem to want an amicable divorce and since he cheated on me and moved directly into another woman's home, that's rare in itself. I just want to make sure no one is being sneaky and things proceed in a way that no one feels as if something is being held over their head.
Any advice is appreciated. I have limited time to answer the papers. Thank you!!