Q: How does one obtain an uncontested divorce?
A: Both parties should sign the papers to get the lawsuit started.
Q: Do both parties need to be involved or does the one show on the doorstep of the other with papers to be signed?
A: Both need to be involved.
Q: Does one party need the okay of the other to seek an uncontested divorce?
A: Yes, otherwise it is a contested divorce.
Q: Lawyers needed? Both parties have to appear in court?
A: Preferably, yes and yes.
Default judgments in lawsuits are NOT favored by the courts; it is best if both y'all do this together and then there will be no questions.
There are two rules for success:
(1) Never tell everything you know.