 updated info, please help!
What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?nc
(my origional post)
ok, i'm in a pretty complicated situation, and its a pretty long story, so here are the basic details.
my husband and i were married in 2000 cause we found out i was pregnant. soon after i had our son in 2001, i began to notice a change in his attitude. he showed little affection for our son (he wanted a girl) i had a hard recovery from childbirth, and this annoyed him. he actually (in my opinion) raped me. any way, i suspected him of having an affai, but never got any real proof. we were(are) unhappy, but he laughed at the mention of divorce, saying he'd never sign any papers. last year, an old friend developed a great relationship with my son(the kind he should have with his father) then in april 2004, he and i became involved(this is the first time i ever cheated) i got pregnant w/ his child. husband found out in july 2004, and forbid me to see the other man, or he was going to take our son. i honestly have had no contact w/ the om since september 2004. husband and hospital nurse said i had to put husbands name as father on birth certificate of new baby. now i have evidence in form of email that he is with at least 2 other women and searching for more. he's even talking about asking one to marry him(and we're still married) i need to know what to do soon.
does anyone know what i can do about the birth certificate?
oh, there is one other detail my son told me that his father tried to make him touch his(dad's) privates, and later that he(dad) tried to touch son's privates. i'm afraid no one will take this seriosly, coming from a 4 year old, but husband does have prior record of indecent exposure to minor when he was 18 or 19. so, i'm wondering if its possible that either he doesn't get contact with son or supervised visits. like i said, theres hardly a loving relationship between husband and our son.
(Update)
Ok, yesterday, DSS came out about my son's accusations toward his dad. They spoke to me and husband, but not to son. Then after they left, husband tried to scare son into not telling the truth when the lady came back. he told him if he said anything bad they would take him away from me. The social worker came back today, but still didn't talk with my son, she said they want to send him to a counselor. I'm afraid they don't believe me because my husband knows the lady since she worked with him on the previous charge he had for assault on a child in 1998. I'm following the rules and not speaking to my son about the accusation, but his father now has him scared into saying it never happened. How can I make sure he tells the truth without discussing this with him, and could husband get in trouble for talking about it to son?
if anyone has any info at all, please post here or email me @ [email]carstinc@yahoo.com[/email]
thanks in advance for any advice. | 
09-23-2005, 09:50 PM
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