What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ
I would REALLY like a divorce. My husband of 28 years is an alcoholic and is addicted to porn. We have 2 adult children, one of whom... still lives at home. I have asked for a divorce in the past. He just laughs and says he'll never leave. The problem is that I will not abandon this house. It was my parent's home and my mother won it in their divorce(he was an alcoholic too). She waived all alimony in lieu of the property. She died 10 years ago with it in all 3 of our names although I have legal documentation that husband signed agreeing that his interest is only 1/4 but that he will be liable for the first mortgage we took out for rennovations and expansion. I have about 7yrs left on that mtg. we both work but he makes twice as much as I do. I just want this to end reasonably civil, but fear violence if I push the issue. He says I cannot afford the house on my own but I could with the help of my child who is still at home or if I rented out a room. We don't speak much, haven't had sex in years and I simply don't like the man...while I can't MAKE him leave, can I file for divorce and have a judge order him to leave? I realize I will have to compensate him his share somehow, but this was MY family home that was paid for the first time without him. My mother's 1/2 interest was legally left to me and I owned 1/4. Do I then own 3/4? Must I forever be emotionally and verbally (and once or twice physically)abused because I won't abandon what my mother suffered to keep for me because he won't agree it's over and move on? He says he loves me but it's a toxic sort of "if I can't have you nobody will" sort. How do I get out of this?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I would REALLY like a divorce. My husband of 28 years is an alcoholic and is addicted to porn. We have 2 adult children, one of whom... still lives at home. I have asked for a divorce in the past. He just laughs and says he'll never leave. The problem is that I will not abandon this house. It was my parent's home and my mother won it in their divorce(he was an alcoholic too). She waived all alimony in lieu of the property. She died 10 years ago with it in all 3 of our names although I have legal documentation that husband signed agreeing that his interest is only 1/4 but that he will be liable for the first mortgage we took out for rennovations and expansion. I have about 7yrs left on that mtg. we both work but he makes twice as much as I do. I just want this to end reasonably civil, but fear violence if I push the issue. He says I cannot afford the house on my own but I could with the help of my child who is still at home or if I rented out a room. We don't speak much, haven't had sex in years and I simply don't like the man...while I can't MAKE him leave, can I file for divorce and have a judge order him to leave? I realize I will have to compensate him his share somehow, but this was MY family home that was paid for the first time without him. My mother's 1/2 interest was legally left to me and I owned 1/4. Do I then own 3/4? Must I forever be emotionally and verbally (and once or twice physically)abused because I won't abandon what my mother suffered to keep for me because he won't agree it's over and move on? He says he loves me but it's a toxic sort of "if I can't have you nobody will" sort. How do I get out of this?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
