What can I do?

[kmroach]

I live in Oregon, but my husband lives in Arkansas. He is planning on getting married to his girlfriend within the next year. I have been trying to get a divorce from my husband for the past year, but something has always come up to keep me from filing. My sister-in-law informed me that my husband's girlfriend is going to file the divorce for me, but i will not like the outcome since she is going to do this underhandedly. What can I do? Can the girlfriend file the divorce forms? Can she threaten to sue me over a name that I want to name my next child if it is a girl? What rights do I have?

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by kmroach

I live in Oregon, but my husband lives in Arkansas. He is planning on getting married to his girlfriend within the next year. I have been trying to get a divorce from my husband for the past year, but something has always come up to keep me from filing. My sister-in-law informed me that my husband's girlfriend is going to file the divorce for me, but i will not like the outcome since she is going to do this underhandedly.

The husband's girlfriend cannot file for you without committing fraud. The husband's girlfriend cannot do anything.

What can I do?

You can file for divorce and if girlfriend files "for you" you can press charges for either identify theft (if she is filing as you) or by contacting the bar association and stating she is practicing law without a license.

Can the girlfriend file the divorce forms?

No.

Can she threaten to sue me over a name that I want to name my next child if it is a girl?

She CAN sue you. But she wouldn't get anywhere. This is not something that is actionable.

What rights do I have?

You have the right to contact an attorney and consult with them abuot a divorce and what you should expect.

[stealth2]

Just file yourself already.

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by stealth2

Just file yourself already.

She can name her child anything she wishes. Names can be reused, you know.

[AHA]

Jesus, is this high school??????? Since when can a name only be used once??? GROW UP!!!!!!

[kmroach]

If I could afford to file I would have. It isn't like the divorce will be as cheap as the wedding was. If I knew then what I know now, I would have used that $200 on something else... lol

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by kmroach

If I could afford to file I would have. It isn't like the divorce will be as cheap as the wedding was. If I knew then what I know now, I would have used that $200 on something else... lol

Look into using a poverty affidavit if you do not have an attorney. That will waive the filing fee and at least let you make payments after the case is over.