What are my rights etc.?

[aizha101]

Virginia. I recently found out that my husband of 9 years posted himself on AdultFriendFinder.
So I am determined to get a divorce.
My question is how should I go by doing it because he is a soldier. Is it better to file on the Army side or civilian side?
I also would like to know what chances I have of getting Alimony because I put him through college all these years and now I am unemployed. I used to work 2 jobs 7 days a week. Then we started moving a lot.
He also said since we now had his nice income from the military I did not have to work.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by aizha101

Virginia. I recently found out that my husband of 9 years posted himself on AdultFriendFinder.
So I am determined to get a divorce.
My question is how should I go by doing it because he is a soldier. Is it better to file on the Army side or civilian side?
I also would like to know what chances I have of getting Alimony because I put him through college all these years and now I am unemployed. I used to work 2 jobs 7 days a week. Then we started moving a lot.
He also said since we now had his nice income from the military I did not have to work.

You have demonstrated that you have the ability to work 2 jobs 7 days a week. My advice is you do just that.

You will need to PROVE he said you did not have to work.

Being vindictive because he put his name on a website won't get you anywhere.

[mistoffolees]

Originally Posted by aizha101

Virginia. I recently found out that my husband of 9 years posted himself on AdultFriendFinder.
So I am determined to get a divorce.
My question is how should I go by doing it because he is a soldier. Is it better to file on the Army side or civilian side?
I also would like to know what chances I have of getting Alimony because I put him through college all these years and now I am unemployed. I used to work 2 jobs 7 days a week. Then we started moving a lot.
He also said since we now had his nice income from the military I did not have to work.

1. What state are you in. That matters, particularly with respect to alimony. 9 years is going to put you in a gray area. In some states, you won't get alimony at all with less than 10 years (even if you meet the criteria). In other states, 9 years could get you 3 years of alimony if you meet the other criteria.

2. Divorce is a civil matter. There's no such thing as an Army divorce. You will file for divorce in the state in which you have residency. The only place the Army will enter into it is that you will find it difficult to divorce him if he is deployed overseas in a combat zone.

3. Regardless of whether you receive alimony, you will need to support yourself. Ignore Bali's comments, but you will need to get a job.

4. Whether he was a millionaire or a pauper, you made a conscious decision for you not to work. You can't really blame him for it.

5. You should really see an attorney to make sure that everything is handled properly. In particular, you may be entitled to a portion of his military pension, but it has to be done right.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by mistoffolees

1. What state are you in. That matters, particularly with respect to alimony. 9 years is going to put you in a gray area. In some states, you won't get alimony at all with less than 10 years (even if you meet the criteria). In other states, 9 years could get you 3 years of alimony if you meet the other criteria.

2. Divorce is a civil matter. There's no such thing as an Army divorce. You will file for divorce in the state in which you have residency. The only place the Army will enter into it is that you will find it difficult to divorce him if he is deployed overseas in a combat zone.

3. Regardless of whether you receive alimony, you will need to support yourself. Ignore Bali's comments, but you will need to get a job.

4. Whether he was a millionaire or a pauper, you made a conscious decision for you not to work. You can't really blame him for it.

5. You should really see an attorney to make sure that everything is handled properly. In particular, you may be entitled to a portion of his military pension, but it has to be done right.

You tell OP to ignore my comments and then give her the same exact advice?

[mistoffolees]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

You tell OP to ignore my comments and then give her the same exact advice?

Where did I advise her to work 2 jobs, 7 days a week?