What should i do?

[dajuca76]

What is the name of your state? CT

I've been married for almost 13 yrs. About 3 weeks ago my wife picked up and left with our 3 kids after I discovered that she had been making excessive phone calls / text messages to a mutual friend over the past 5 months at all hours of the day / night. She is now over 8hrs away with my 3 children and claims that she has left because of domestic violence to her / our children.

I cannot deny that during some of our arguments things got physical between us (never my kids though). Never punches or kicks or anything like that, but I have hit things, or thrown things (so has she). On some occassions I've pushed past her if she was blocking my exit way, but I never did anything that left bruises, or put her in the hospital, I never "beat" her ever. I was always the one who was the first to walk away, or to try to defuse the situation. I used to beg her not to get the kids involved as she ranted and raved around the house. However, since I'm the male, and things did get volatile at times, I'm at fault and I accept that, but I have no idea what to do. I've begun undergoing "anger management" classes just to show my willingness to work things out, but I have a hard time believing that she left because of me. It's been a year or more since anything explosive verbal or otherwise has happened, and outside of my relentless spouse, I'm always mild tempered. It all seems too cooncidental that the day she gets busted she suddenly needs to leave because of me?

My kids desperately want to come back home. My oldest of 15 tells me that our conversations are being listened to on the other line, as if they're waiting for me to make a threat, or say something negative.

What are my legal rights / options?? I miss my kids, and strangely enough I do miss my wife, I'm 100% willing to work things out, but I feel like this is a one sided battle. With me inevitably being the loser.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by dajuca76

What is the name of your state? CT

I've been married for almost 13 yrs. About 3 weeks ago my wife picked up and left with our 3 kids after I discovered that she had been making excessive phone calls / text messages to a mutual friend over the past 5 months at all hours of the day / night. She is now over 8hrs away with my 3 children and claims that she has left because of domestic violence to her / our children.

I cannot deny that during some of our arguments things got physical between us (never my kids though). Never punches or kicks or anything like that, but I have hit things, or thrown things (so has she). On some occassions I've pushed past her if she was blocking my exit way, but I never did anything that left bruises, or put her in the hospital, I never "beat" her ever. I was always the one who was the first to walk away, or to try to defuse the situation. I used to beg her not to get the kids involved as she ranted and raved around the house. However, since I'm the male, and things did get volatile at times, I'm at fault and I accept that, but I have no idea what to do. I've begun undergoing "anger management" classes just to show my willingness to work things out, but I have a hard time believing that she left because of me. It's been a year or more since anything explosive verbal or otherwise has happened, and outside of my relentless spouse, I'm always mild tempered. It all seems too cooncidental that the day she gets busted she suddenly needs to leave because of me?

My kids desperately want to come back home. My oldest of 15 tells me that our conversations are being listened to on the other line, as if they're waiting for me to make a threat, or say something negative.

What are my legal rights / options?? I miss my kids, and strangely enough I do miss my wife, I'm 100% willing to work things out, but I feel like this is a one sided battle. With me inevitably being the loser.

It is your right to go to court for emergency orders asking the judge to order your wife to return the children to their home community. The sooner you do that, the more likely you are to prevail.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

It is your right to go to court for emergency orders asking the judge to order your wife to return the children to their home community. The sooner you do that, the more likely you are to prevail.

Good advice, and also lfile for divorce!! You've been manipulated by this woman long enough!!

If you can prove grounds for adultery, you may come out of court a little better than you otherwise would have.

[dajuca76]

I just wanted to say thank you for the replies. I will speak to a lawyer with regards to these suggestions and see what action to take. I'm glad to know that i do have some options.