Homeless Dad
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
We will be married 7 years this summer. I can't take it any more - I am treated as a second class person and I am willing to walk a way with the clothes on my back and joint custody of our kids. As primary care-giver up until the last couple of weeks (ages 3&5) I stayed home days and worked eve & weekends - my lawyer says to go for full custody?? I want my kids but I know they need their mother even though I have a low opinion of her ( I never say anything bad about her around the kids - she yells at me and I just take it because I don't think kids should watch that kind of thing) I am rambling as I don;t know where to turn. Details: We purchased home in her name before we were married - I have never been put on title. Do I loose everything. I do have proof I gave her money for D.P. and we have had a joint checking & savings account since we have been married. I have put a lot of sweat equity in this home as well! Even in this market it still is worth $60 K more than we spent on it. Am I out of luck or do I have claim to the equity. I haven't found a lawyer yet. I caught her trying to have an affair two years ago and she tells me to this day she whished she went through with it. I have stock options from a job b4 we were married and a recent inheritence that can provide a way out ( 50% down on a house) and three part-time jobs that gross about $600 a week in upstate NY. I talked with Mort people and they think that with so much down I can get financed. I don't care if I live in a box ops she is coming - I don't know what to do. What do I need - when you don;t know enough to ask questions - advise please???
We will be married 7 years this summer. I can't take it any more - I am treated as a second class person and I am willing to walk a way with the clothes on my back and joint custody of our kids. As primary care-giver up until the last couple of weeks (ages 3&5) I stayed home days and worked eve & weekends - my lawyer says to go for full custody?? I want my kids but I know they need their mother even though I have a low opinion of her ( I never say anything bad about her around the kids - she yells at me and I just take it because I don't think kids should watch that kind of thing) I am rambling as I don;t know where to turn. Details: We purchased home in her name before we were married - I have never been put on title. Do I loose everything. I do have proof I gave her money for D.P. and we have had a joint checking & savings account since we have been married. I have put a lot of sweat equity in this home as well! Even in this market it still is worth $60 K more than we spent on it. Am I out of luck or do I have claim to the equity. I haven't found a lawyer yet. I caught her trying to have an affair two years ago and she tells me to this day she whished she went through with it. I have stock options from a job b4 we were married and a recent inheritence that can provide a way out ( 50% down on a house) and three part-time jobs that gross about $600 a week in upstate NY. I talked with Mort people and they think that with so much down I can get financed. I don't care if I live in a box ops she is coming - I don't know what to do. What do I need - when you don;t know enough to ask questions - advise please???