What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA
I truly regret having a 2 month affair about 3 years ago. We were discreet and my wife does not know. My wife and I, after 10 long years, are finally heading to divorce. We have children and I am active in their lives, attend PTA, coach the swim team, etc. The children will live with her. We might have a chance at a cooperative divorce. But, I just found out that the discovery process practically guarantees a question about extramarital bed partners. There are times to own up, have integrity, be honest, but when divorcing with children, this news would truly wreck any cooperation we have now and potentially for years to come. I regret my behavior immensely, I was lonely and made a serious mistake. But I don't want to create more strife than necessary for us and for the children. I have read advice to not withhold information from my attorney. However, he obviously cannot ethically go along with my deception in a legal setting. We were very discreet, only a close friend and a counselor know about it. Why should I divulge the affair at this point to my own attorney or during discovery? I know I risk perjury if the other side can supply proof. But I believe that if I answer "no" to the question, that will be that. What to do? I hate that I'm in this situation. If you are ever tempted to have a affair, don't. It's not worth the stress.
I truly regret having a 2 month affair about 3 years ago. We were discreet and my wife does not know. My wife and I, after 10 long years, are finally heading to divorce. We have children and I am active in their lives, attend PTA, coach the swim team, etc. The children will live with her. We might have a chance at a cooperative divorce. But, I just found out that the discovery process practically guarantees a question about extramarital bed partners. There are times to own up, have integrity, be honest, but when divorcing with children, this news would truly wreck any cooperation we have now and potentially for years to come. I regret my behavior immensely, I was lonely and made a serious mistake. But I don't want to create more strife than necessary for us and for the children. I have read advice to not withhold information from my attorney. However, he obviously cannot ethically go along with my deception in a legal setting. We were very discreet, only a close friend and a counselor know about it. Why should I divulge the affair at this point to my own attorney or during discovery? I know I risk perjury if the other side can supply proof. But I believe that if I answer "no" to the question, that will be that. What to do? I hate that I'm in this situation. If you are ever tempted to have a affair, don't. It's not worth the stress.
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