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Old 10-20-2005, 11:34 PM
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wife and her lover - flaunt in front of the kids

What is the name of your state?tx

papers were filed last week and my wife moved out back in June. She keeps wanting to bring her buddy to our girls sporting events, picinic, etc.. I keep telling my wife that I don't think this is a good idea as the guy isnt the girls father and he doesn't need to be there. She seems to have no problem with it, she has no morals or class at this point I tell her. I keep telling her we are still married and she is commiting adultry, but she doesn't care. She keeps on trying to have this guy show up at our kids events. Do I have any recourse, can I stop him from coming.
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Old 10-21-2005, 11:36 AM
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Old 10-21-2005, 12:10 PM
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no you can't stop him from coming to public events
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Old 10-21-2005, 12:21 PM
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What is the name of your state?tx
Do I have any recourse, can I stop him from coming.
Nope, but hiring a few exotic dancers to accompany you might make the ex pissy and believe me, it would be worth it
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Old 10-21-2005, 01:55 PM
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Thanks. My attorney just told me the same thing. Not unles I get temporary orders in place, she can do what she wants. It is just so classless to me as we are not even divorced yet.
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Thanks. My attorney just told me the same thing. Not unles I get temporary orders in place, she can do what she wants. It is just so classless to me as we are not even divorced yet.
Makes you wonder why you married the bitch doesn't it?

Kids aren't stupid.
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Old 10-22-2005, 09:55 AM
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Is there really a good reason that you don't want this other guy there? Is he hurting anything, or doing anything that he shouldn't be? Or do you simply not want him there because he's "the other man?" I'm asking because I'm on the other side of the coin in a similar situation. My ex-husband moved out of the house in May, but I did not receive papers until July, and our divorce was finalized in October (of last year.) I did not start bringing my now fiance around my daughter for a couple of months because I didn't want to rush things since she was only 3 years old at the time, but I did start bringing him to family events, my daughter's birthday party (which was in October- just before the divorce was finalized) and so forth after a couple of months because these were things I attended, and it was natural for him to go with me. We do not act inappropriately, and no one has ever questioned my "class or lack thereof" for bringing him. They knew that he was a part of my life and didn't have a problem with it. When you started dating your wife, didn't you want to take her along with you to the things you or people you knew participated in?

Maybe you're worried that he might move in on your "dad territory." I am getting this a lot from my ex-husband. It was his choice to move out of state and only had our daughter come out to stay with him three times all of last year, but now that my daughter is identifying with my fiance as a father figure, he is upset and is constantly telling her that my fiance is not her dad- she only has one dad. To me, he's letting himself feel insecure that she is becoming attached to my fiance. Whether he likes it or not, she will have a step-father. But just like in your case, he will always be her dad. And you will always be your girls' dad. Who cares if he's there? Don't sit around and fume that he's there. Be there for your girls. It's not about you anyway- it's about them. Carry on as you normally would. If they are there just enjoying watching the girls, not doing anything wrong, let it be. It doesn't make her a bitch that she is moving on with her life. You might think it's too soon, but everybody has their own opinion and see situations differently. If you sit around and throw a fit because she brings someone with her, that's just going to make things worse, and probably get the girls worked up in the process. Be an adult about it for them.
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Is there really a good reason that you don't want this other guy there? Is he hurting anything, or doing anything that he shouldn't be? Or do you simply not want him there because he's "the other man?" I'm asking because I'm on the other side of the coin in a similar situation. My ex-husband moved out of the house in May, but I did not receive papers until July, and our divorce was finalized in October (of last year.) I did not start bringing my now fiance around my daughter for a couple of months because I didn't want to rush things since she was only 3 years old at the time, but I did start bringing him to family events, my daughter's birthday party (which was in October- just before the divorce was finalized) and so forth after a couple of months because these were things I attended, and it was natural for him to go with me. We do not act inappropriately, and no one has ever questioned my "class or lack thereof" for bringing him. They knew that he was a part of my life and didn't have a problem with it. When you started dating your wife, didn't you want to take her along with you to the things you or people you knew participated in?

Maybe you're worried that he might move in on your "dad territory." I am getting this a lot from my ex-husband. It was his choice to move out of state and only had our daughter come out to stay with him three times all of last year, but now that my daughter is identifying with my fiance as a father figure, he is upset and is constantly telling her that my fiance is not her dad- she only has one dad. To me, he's letting himself feel insecure that she is becoming attached to my fiance. Whether he likes it or not, she will have a step-father. But just like in your case, he will always be her dad. And you will always be your girls' dad. Who cares if he's there? Don't sit around and fume that he's there. Be there for your girls. It's not about you anyway- it's about them. Carry on as you normally would. If they are there just enjoying watching the girls, not doing anything wrong, let it be. It doesn't make her a bitch that she is moving on with her life. You might think it's too soon, but everybody has their own opinion and see situations differently. If you sit around and throw a fit because she brings someone with her, that's just going to make things worse, and probably get the girls worked up in the process. Be an adult about it for them.
What part of any of this diatribe have to do with a LEGAL answer?
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What part of any of this diatribe have to do with a LEGAL answer?
You are such a bitch. There was nothing offensive said**************.just a point of view. Legal? no. Helpful? probably. I think seeing the situation from both sides was enlightening**************....but that isn't legal advise either! So sorry Belize.
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You are such a bitch.
That would be difficult for BB.
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You are such a bitch. There was nothing offensive said**************.just a point of view. Legal? no. Helpful? probably. I think seeing the situation from both sides was enlightening**************....but that isn't legal advise either! So sorry Belize.

**A: nothing in this thread thus far is legal advise.
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Hmmm...So sorry Belize Breeze. I guess that I was so busy delivering my bitter diatribe, which was simply meant to offer the SLIGHT possibility that there was a different way to look at this situation and hopefully show him that since mom and her friend have done nothing unlawful, there is really nothing he can do about it, that I almost missed that superb "legal" advice that you yourself gave to hire some exotic dancers to parade around with him. Wow. Thanks. I'll bet that was helpful. That part about asking him "makes you wonder why you married the bitch" was a very eloquent legal answer too. I thought the point of this site was not only for those who actually have legal knowledge to share it, but also for those who are not legal professionals to share their insight and opinions. But apparently I was mistaken.
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Thanks. My attorney just told me the same thing. Not unles I get temporary orders in place, she can do what she wants. It is just so classless to me as we are not even divorced yet.

Just now reading through these posts but wanted to point out that even with the temporary orders that you have in place now, the man can still go to sporting events and the like.
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Old 11-15-2005, 03:59 AM
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You are such a bitch. There was nothing offensive said**************.just a point of view. Legal? no. Helpful? probably. I think seeing the situation from both sides was enlightening**************....but that isn't legal advise either! So sorry Belize.
And you know what legal advice is? Give it, instead of hijacking posts. I for one will not hold a breath waiting for your LIMPY Reply
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What part of any of this diatribe have to do with a LEGAL answer?
Absolutely None, and I was a dufis for even reading it.
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