Wife refuses divorce-very unique situation

What is the name of your state? New york

I'm a 49 yo male US citizen. 2 1/2 years ago I married a Canadian citizen here in NYS after she obtained a finance' visa from INS. She has 10 year son she doesn't plan to bring here since father of child lives in canada and they have shared custody. She kept and maintains her house in Canada where she lives when she's up there. She spend 6 1/2 of every two weeks up there and 7 1/2 days of every 2 weeks here with me. Yes, this is awkward.

She got a green card and just 2 months ago petitioned for permanent residency after 2 year of conditional residency.

To avoid paying more in child support to her child's father and to avoid losing canadian benefits and to avoid having canadian income tax know about her occassional US income (some under the table), she has: 1. refused to file joint tax returns with me (penalizing me tax-wise), 2. brought $7,000+ from her canadian bank account to her separate bank account here, not included US income in her Canadian tax returns, lied to candian child support arbration hearing to show less assests and income available for child support, hasn't filed US tax returns as separate filer (I am just sending my 2002 and 2003 now, for unrelated reasons.).

I found out her 2nd marriage, in Canada, was merely a convenience to obtain immigration into Canada for a friend, with no marital relations for 2 years until they divorce once permanent residency in Canada was obtained.

3 weeks ago she abandoned me and moved out much of her stuff to go back to Canada. One day after marriage counseling I arranged that "didn't go her way" (She used it to accuse me of having 2 mental disorders and the pysch didn't agree! Yes, I had one--marrying stupidly!).

She has, in the past, said sahe wanted a divorce. I urged counseling.

Now I want a divorce and she refuses, from Canada she refuses. She is now sending my legal sounding messages seemingly of her own design that allege she left/fled because I was empotionally abusive to her. This is a crock but now I'm scared.

I want out ASAP, but I don't have alot of money. Is there any grounds for annullment based on fruad, etc?

Can she get part of my pension (I'm 7years away from receiving it), the only big assest I have? Actually, since our marriage, my net worth has dropped, alot, and have have much debt acquired since marriage.

Any advice to get her out and safeguard my financial assests? Thank you!!!

I'm on verge of turning her in to INS, US Tax, Canadian tax, but woory that "meanness" will count against me if she contests any divorce I start. what they want ?

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