veryworriedson
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC
I am worried about my mother. My father refuses to pay any bills. He has had a seperate account for 1 1/2 years, which his paychecks go into. They have been married for around 20 years. My mother quit her job to take care of me, 18, and my brother, 17, when we were younger. I recently moved out for college, and my brother is soon as well. She left her career job, where her and my father were making pretty equal pay. My father claims that he never wanted her to quit. He constantly brings up past mistakes, such as alcohol and drug use of my brother and I, which we are now clean and clear of. He says it is all my mother's fault, and claims he will "bill her" for the drugs if she divorces him. He also says she bought my brother a car when he said no. He basically says he is going to tell the judge that she "payed for my drugs", which is insane. That is not a sound legal argument, is it?
The mortgage hasn't been payed for two months, along with the electricity and water. My mom has been struggling to pay these for a year, getting help from my grandparents occasionally. She just doesn't have enough income. My father works late, comes in and does whatever he wants, while verbally abusing my mother almost daily. What are her options? Is there anyway she can get him out or make him pay? Is verbal abuse enough for a restraining order?
That is short term though. Long term, she has land in her parents name that she can move onto after a divorce. What are her options?
I am worried about my mother. My father refuses to pay any bills. He has had a seperate account for 1 1/2 years, which his paychecks go into. They have been married for around 20 years. My mother quit her job to take care of me, 18, and my brother, 17, when we were younger. I recently moved out for college, and my brother is soon as well. She left her career job, where her and my father were making pretty equal pay. My father claims that he never wanted her to quit. He constantly brings up past mistakes, such as alcohol and drug use of my brother and I, which we are now clean and clear of. He says it is all my mother's fault, and claims he will "bill her" for the drugs if she divorces him. He also says she bought my brother a car when he said no. He basically says he is going to tell the judge that she "payed for my drugs", which is insane. That is not a sound legal argument, is it?
The mortgage hasn't been payed for two months, along with the electricity and water. My mom has been struggling to pay these for a year, getting help from my grandparents occasionally. She just doesn't have enough income. My father works late, comes in and does whatever he wants, while verbally abusing my mother almost daily. What are her options? Is there anyway she can get him out or make him pay? Is verbal abuse enough for a restraining order?
That is short term though. Long term, she has land in her parents name that she can move onto after a divorce. What are her options?
