Young Army Wife Seeking Legal Advice

[miss_p0tter]

What is the name of your state?: Kansas

I've been married to a soldier of the US Army for 5 months. He's been AWOL for almost 2 months now. I haven't been able to reach him. His cell phone has been turned off. Only way I know anything is through his family and friends. He's got a girlfriend and has proven his instability and lack of commitment. Last time I was able to talk to him I notified him I wanted a separation and he told me that I would have to take care of it myself. I have very little to no knowledge of divorce/annulment and especially how this works with him being Military. I'm looking for some advice, at least a starting point where I can go from. I appreciate your time and any help you can provide.

-Eden

 

[CourtClerk]

Start at your courthouse and legal aid. They should be able to assist you.

 

[mistoffolees]

Start at your courthouse and legal aid. They should be able to assist you.

There are also some services for spouses of military personnel. It might be worth contacting the liason office to see if they can help in any way.

 

[Farfalla]

What is the name of your state?: Kansas

I've been married to a militant of 5 months.

Why are you calling him a 'militant'? Do you live in Montana?

"Militant" generally as a negative connotation. He is a soldier or a member of the military, not a militant.

He's been AWOL for almost 2 months now. I haven't been able to reach him. His cell phone has been turned off. Only way I know anything is through his family and friends. He's got a girlfriend and has proven his instability and lack of commitment. Last time I was able to talk to him I notified him I wanted a separation and he told me that I would have to take care of it myself. I have very little to no knowledge of divorce/annulment and especially how this works with him being Military. I'm looking for some advice, at least a starting point where I can go from. I appreciate your time and any help you can provide.

-Eden

IF you know where he is, or how to reach him, like through his family you are legally bound to tell the authorities. He family is committing a felony if they don't do this too.

How long have you two been married?

How long has he been in the military?

Do you have any children?

Are there any assets to divide?

Have you checked out the military forum on here too?

Have you called JAG?

 

[Silverplum]

I can't imagine why some of you are advising her to ask the military for help. She's not military. She's done nothing to earn those benefits. She gets plenty of freebies just because she married military, but the military is NOT going to help her divorce a servicemember.

Not that her AWOL POC "husband" has earned any bennies, either.

 

[miss_p0tter]

Why are you calling him a 'militant'? Do you live in Montana?

"Militant" generally as a negative connotation. He is a soldier or a member of the military, not a militant.




IF you know where he is, or how to reach him, like through his family you are legally bound to tell the authorities. He family is committing a felony if they don't do this too.

How long have you two been married?

How long has he been in the military?

Do you have any children?

Are there any assets to divide?

Have you checked out the military forum on here too?

Have you called JAG?

I apologize for calling him a militant. New to the whole scenario so was unaware it was seen as a negative comment.
The Military knows where he is.
I did inform them.
His family informed them.
And they've done nothing.
Even when he was arrested for domestic violence and a couple other charges when I went to try and bring him back, they made no move to get custody of him and bring him back to KS.
We've been married for 5 months.
He's been in for a year and a half.
We have no children, no property together, nothing.
Did check out the Military forum didn't see much that was helpful.
Called JAG, but due to the holiday didn't get a response (I intend to keep trying).

 

[Silverplum]

So file for divorce. There's nothing to fight over, it shouldn't be a big deal.

I apologize for calling him a militant. New to the whole scenario so was unaware it was seen as a negative comment.
The Military knows where he is.
I did inform them.
His family informed them.
And they've done nothing.
Even when he was arrested for domestic violence and a couple other charges when I went to try and bring him back, they made no move to get custody of him and bring him back to KS.
We've been married for 5 months.
He's been in for a year and a half.
We have no children, no property together, nothing.
Did check out the Military forum didn't see much that was helpful.
Called JAG, but due to the holiday didn't get a response (I intend to keep trying).

 

[miss_p0tter]

I can't imagine why some of you are advising her to ask the military for help. She's not military. She's done nothing to earn those benefits. She gets plenty of freebies just because she married military, but the military is NOT going to help her divorce a servicemember.

Not that her AWOL POC "husband" has earned any bennies, either.

Silverplum has a point.
They're not eager to help me out.
They're loyalty is to him even with the circumstances. -.-

 

[Silverplum]

Silverplum has a point.
They're not eager to help me out.
They're loyalty is to him even with the circumstances. -.-

Yeah. Like I said. You haven't done jack, therefore you have "earned" none of those bennies.

 

[Zigner]

Silverplum has a point.
They're not eager to help me out.
They're loyalty is to him even with the circumstances. -.-

It's not a matter of loyalty - it's just not their job.

 

[miss_p0tter]

It's not a matter of loyalty - it's just not their job.

You're right.
I stand corrected.
And this is going to be very hard.
He happened to email me saying he's going to fight it.

 

[mistoffolees]

I can't imagine why some of you are advising her to ask the military for help. She's not military. She's done nothing to earn those benefits. She gets plenty of freebies just because she married military, but the military is NOT going to help her divorce a servicemember.

Not that her AWOL POC "husband" has earned any bennies, either.

No one suggested that the military would get her a divorce. What I suggested was that she talk with the spouse's support group. They might, just as a few examples:
1. Have been through the process before and be able to guide her with some of the peculiarities of military divorce.
2. Refer her to a local attorney who is familiar with military divorce and works for a reasonable fee.
3. Help her to understand just what her status will be post-divorce
and so on.

Not to mention the value of emotional support.