Riverside county, California
Re: boyfriends situation. He has a past with x wife of 13 years. All ended in 2006 with jail then
prison all DV claims from spite. Heard stories about the lies and manipulations on how his x
Used the system to her favor. Fast forward today. Aug 2009 mom left 3 minors with a known
Drug abuser. Her 17 year old son over dosed. Police & emt's show up. Call mom tell her
to pick up her 4 and 10 year old. She refuses. Also refuses to give info for their dad. They
go to foster care for 3 months. When we heard what happened we called the county. We
got supervised visits a 5 hour round trip drive for us we did weekly. Mom gets custody
back. She now has a social worker. Wrap around team. Parent partner. You name it. We
get unsupervised visits eventually. Then over nights. That's when trouble started. Mom
demanded to see docket minutes to prove over nights were allowed. Then after first
weekend. Mom tells worker kids cried all night. Next visit she claims they didn't want to
come. Despite kids telling worker they love being here. One weekend we were in the
desert no one or anything around. Dad let's lil guy drive on his lap on the dirt.
Next thing we know a child abuse case was called. Mom didn't go to her worker. She
Called the hotline. A TDM meeting was called to address animosity with mom and
Vindictive actions towards dad. Since that meeting its got worse. Mom mentally twists
The kids minds. The county makes excuse after excuse. Kids come to us dirty, unkept
And.Improperly packed. Once sent with molded swim suits still in the same bag we sent
them home In 2 weeks earlier. County says 'not our issue. We are closing the cps case in
Dec with 50/50 custody. Hash it out in family court then' then 3 weeks ago a social worker
shows up at my door. Mom filed a abuse case with the hotline. Of course all these calls
are confidential so its not proven its her. now its claimed my boyfriend beat me the
weekend the kids were last here. She claimed the kids came home with bruises. Because
I have a 15 year old daughter my home is investigated for her safety. I live in Orange
county. OC worker investigates .sees its a vindictive mom. Closes unfounded. We
have already missed one visit till investigation was closed. Last Thursday social worker
calls. Says everything is set for visit this weekend. They say mom tried to get a tro but it
was nullified. After several calls the worker made to us and mom. It's set that we will
drive the 5 hours round trip to get the kids at a fast food joint. Social worker says if she's
not there to have police call child abuse hotline where its documented we are to have
the kids. We arrive to be met by the police and given a TRO. Mom knew what she was
doing just 24 earlier the meet time and place was given to both parties thru cps. She
could've told her worker she had this TRO. Before having us drive out there. Part of
me wonders if cps did know. Of course its the weekend so we can't talk to anyone.
Mom deleted their daughters Facebook page dad made .deactivated the email he made
for daughter. Set up a new page. Blocked dad. All vindictive acts. I don't understand how
she got this order. She wasn't scared of him on 4th of July when she came to our house
with the kids for bbq and swimming. Not scared when mom asked.dad to come in her
home to put kids beds together. This fear didn't start till over nights came up. We are
told kids never said they were subject to abuse. But stories on were bruises came from
are inconsistent. 5 year old says he fell off the bed or the couch. Never abuse though.
Surely he's 5 he's gonna have a bruise or 2. Not to mention we took them kayaking
when they were here. Everything she's saying is lies. Kids can't keep a straight story cuz they can't remember everything mom says to say. None of this is considered. Kids told us mom threatens that they will go back to foster care if they don't do as she says. But I think the mental abuse on the kids and fear they'll do what mom says. Can we sue mom for abuse of process with false abuse claims and now this tro all In an attempt to keep and delete dad from their lives. Cps doesn't seem to care. They believe all her lies and back up her excuses. Guess removing the kids is too.much paper work. Easier to just utilize the services they already have in place. It kills me to see him hurt and screwed over so much.
Re: boyfriends situation. He has a past with x wife of 13 years. All ended in 2006 with jail then
prison all DV claims from spite. Heard stories about the lies and manipulations on how his x
Used the system to her favor. Fast forward today. Aug 2009 mom left 3 minors with a known
Drug abuser. Her 17 year old son over dosed. Police & emt's show up. Call mom tell her
to pick up her 4 and 10 year old. She refuses. Also refuses to give info for their dad. They
go to foster care for 3 months. When we heard what happened we called the county. We
got supervised visits a 5 hour round trip drive for us we did weekly. Mom gets custody
back. She now has a social worker. Wrap around team. Parent partner. You name it. We
get unsupervised visits eventually. Then over nights. That's when trouble started. Mom
demanded to see docket minutes to prove over nights were allowed. Then after first
weekend. Mom tells worker kids cried all night. Next visit she claims they didn't want to
come. Despite kids telling worker they love being here. One weekend we were in the
desert no one or anything around. Dad let's lil guy drive on his lap on the dirt.
Next thing we know a child abuse case was called. Mom didn't go to her worker. She
Called the hotline. A TDM meeting was called to address animosity with mom and
Vindictive actions towards dad. Since that meeting its got worse. Mom mentally twists
The kids minds. The county makes excuse after excuse. Kids come to us dirty, unkept
And.Improperly packed. Once sent with molded swim suits still in the same bag we sent
them home In 2 weeks earlier. County says 'not our issue. We are closing the cps case in
Dec with 50/50 custody. Hash it out in family court then' then 3 weeks ago a social worker
shows up at my door. Mom filed a abuse case with the hotline. Of course all these calls
are confidential so its not proven its her. now its claimed my boyfriend beat me the
weekend the kids were last here. She claimed the kids came home with bruises. Because
I have a 15 year old daughter my home is investigated for her safety. I live in Orange
county. OC worker investigates .sees its a vindictive mom. Closes unfounded. We
have already missed one visit till investigation was closed. Last Thursday social worker
calls. Says everything is set for visit this weekend. They say mom tried to get a tro but it
was nullified. After several calls the worker made to us and mom. It's set that we will
drive the 5 hours round trip to get the kids at a fast food joint. Social worker says if she's
not there to have police call child abuse hotline where its documented we are to have
the kids. We arrive to be met by the police and given a TRO. Mom knew what she was
doing just 24 earlier the meet time and place was given to both parties thru cps. She
could've told her worker she had this TRO. Before having us drive out there. Part of
me wonders if cps did know. Of course its the weekend so we can't talk to anyone.
Mom deleted their daughters Facebook page dad made .deactivated the email he made
for daughter. Set up a new page. Blocked dad. All vindictive acts. I don't understand how
she got this order. She wasn't scared of him on 4th of July when she came to our house
with the kids for bbq and swimming. Not scared when mom asked.dad to come in her
home to put kids beds together. This fear didn't start till over nights came up. We are
told kids never said they were subject to abuse. But stories on were bruises came from
are inconsistent. 5 year old says he fell off the bed or the couch. Never abuse though.
Surely he's 5 he's gonna have a bruise or 2. Not to mention we took them kayaking
when they were here. Everything she's saying is lies. Kids can't keep a straight story cuz they can't remember everything mom says to say. None of this is considered. Kids told us mom threatens that they will go back to foster care if they don't do as she says. But I think the mental abuse on the kids and fear they'll do what mom says. Can we sue mom for abuse of process with false abuse claims and now this tro all In an attempt to keep and delete dad from their lives. Cps doesn't seem to care. They believe all her lies and back up her excuses. Guess removing the kids is too.much paper work. Easier to just utilize the services they already have in place. It kills me to see him hurt and screwed over so much.
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