bad words from another child

[lavleegal]

how to resolve an issue a five year old child facing bad words from another child. Informing to their parents didn't work out.

 

[Proserpina]

how to resolve an issue a five year old child facing bad words from another child. Informing to their parents didn't work out.

We're going to need a bit more than that.

Your US state is:

Your relationship to the child/ren is:

What exactly is the problem:

(If you're asking how to stop kids from being mean to each other, you're in the wrong place)

 

[lavleegal]

bad words to children

We're going to need a bit more than that.

Your US state is: NJ

Your relationship to the child/ren is: friend's daughter

What exactly is the problem: one of my friend's child is complaining that a friend of her is saying bad (f*) words to her.

 

[Proserpina]

We're going to need a bit more than that.

Your US state is: NJ

Your relationship to the child/ren is: friend's daughter

What exactly is the problem: one of my friend's child is complaining that a friend of her is saying bad (f*) words to her.

That is not a legal problem. The child should be taught coping skills, because kids can be mean. Seriously - you actually took the time to register on a legal forum?!

 

[lavleegal]

That is not a legal problem. The child should be taught coping skills, because kids can be mean. Seriously - you actually took the time to register on a legal forum?!

I understand that. But wanted to see how to face this situation. My friend was worried about as his child kept on complaining about it and he doesn't know what to do.
But again if it is not a legal problem, is it good for a kid to face such situation? My question was is there any way we can help the other kid not using bad words.

 

[Proserpina]

I understand that. But wanted to see how to face this situation. My friend was worried about as his child kept on complaining about it and he doesn't know what to do.
But again if it is not a legal problem, is it good for a kid to face such situation? My question was is there any way we can help the other kid not using bad words.

Honestly? It's none of your business. Parenting - and that's what this boils down to - is what parents are meant to do. Not friends of parents, not strangers on the internet, not the TV or X-Box.

If the parent can't manage to teach the child coping skills, that's very sad indeed.

 

[LdiJ]

Honestly? It's none of your business. Parenting - and that's what this boils down to - is what parents are meant to do. Not friends of parents, not strangers on the internet, not the TV or X-Box.

If the parent can't manage to teach the child coping skills, that's very sad indeed.

I am interpreting this a little differently than you. I think that the child is using swear words (ie dropping f bombs) in front of the OP's friend's child, and taking to that child's parents did not help the situation.

 

[Proserpina]

I am interpreting this a little differently than you. I think that the child is using swear words (ie dropping f bombs) in front of the OP's friend's child, and taking to that child's parents did not help the situation.

I don't think we interpreted it differently at all; I think we're both on the same page. The child on the receiving end of the nasty words really should be learning how to cope with mean, mouthy little kids. The parents of both children are at fault here; Nasty Nicky has a foul mouth which needs to be curbed, and Delicate Danny needs to learn how to cope with the Nasty Nickys of the world.

Regardless, this just ain't a legal problem at all. What exactly does the OP want to happen? Nasty Nicky's parents aren't going to jail or paying any fines because their kid is a potty mouth, y'know?

 

[LdiJ]

I don't think we interpreted it differently at all; I think we're both on the same page. The child on the receiving end of the nasty words really should be learning how to cope with mean, mouthy little kids. The parents of both children are at fault here; Nasty Nicky has a foul mouth which needs to be curbed, and Delicate Danny needs to learn how to cope with the Nasty Nickys of the world.

Regardless, this just ain't a legal problem at all. What exactly does the OP want to happen? Nasty Nicky's parents aren't going to jail or paying any fines because their kid is a potty mouth, y'know?

I was looking at it from more of a standpoint of the child teaching the other child bad words, (by example) rather than the child using bad words to be mean to the other child. However you are correct. Its not a legal issue in either regard. Its a parenting issue.

 

[Proserpina]

I was looking at it from more of a standpoint of the child teaching the other child bad words, (by example) rather than the child using bad words to be mean to the other child. However you are correct. Its not a legal issue in either regard. Its a parenting issue.

Oh okay, that makes sense too. Children can be horrid little sods, can't they?

 

[I'mTheFather]

What the heck??? They're five! If your friend doesn't want his child exposed to that language, don't let the children play together. Geez...

 

[commentator]

Children are amazingly quick to pick up what mommy is going to make an issue of, worry about, want to hear about. (How does it make you feel?) So if, the next time little Nicky uses this language in front of you, little Sensodine, and you come tell me about it, I'll take you away from the scene and we don't play with little Nicky any more. My bet is that in a few days, some other kids going to drop the f... bomb and the little one will be telling mom about that one too. What they can make the biggest impression on their parents with, and this child has learned some nifty ways to upset his mom.

 

[stealth2]

I'd be surprised if Fainthearted Farrah hasn't heard the same word and more on the playground or bus. It's where kids learn "language" if not at home. And oooooh, it's so risque to drop it in front of others - and watch Mommy go pale. Old as the Earth, that is.

p.s. Apparently, people who swear have stronger and broader vocabularies than those who don't...

 

[anearthw]

mmayl

Well, as others say, not a legal problem. You're not even one of the parents, so it seems odd to ask on a legal forum. That being said, I work with this age group and specialize in severe behavioral issues, so her's my take. For typical 5 yo children, you can use the "warm fuzzy" or "cold prickly" approach. We use warm fuzzies, not cold pricklies, we don't make our friends sad. For swears, a simple "we say, oh dear, please!", is positive reinforcement. For kids with more complex issues (problematic home environments, mental health conditions, whatever), it may be worth recommending early learning specialists through county or other local services.

 

[Just Blue]

I'd be surprised if Fainthearted Farrah hasn't heard the same word and more on the playground or bus. It's where kids learn "language" if not at home. And oooooh, it's so risque to drop it in front of others - and watch Mommy go pale. Old as the Earth, that is.

p.s. Apparently, people who swear have stronger and broader vocabularies than those who don't...

Then lil'blu must have a very strong and broad vocab!! And...Yes she does.

And she does like to put me to blush!!