What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
So I went out with this guy close to 2 years ago ago (went out with him around april-july 2013) We broke up in July 2013 and he was quiet for several months. Around November 2013 he started sending me lots of emails. You could see him going on this emotional roller coaster because he was like I love you come back to me and then went into I hate you you are a dirty whore mode very quickly. I told him through an email that I no longer wanted to have any contacts with him and then he went into this crazy rage mode and called me all sorts of sexually derogatory terms. He continued to send me his super long emails. I've received around 60-70 at this point which I haven't replied to except for the one where i told him stop contacting me.
I tried my best to ignore his crazy emails but then he started calling me a whore publicly on facebook with all sorts of fabricated information. I cut contacts with bunch of people, stopped going to the church where I was going (that's where we met), closed down a lot of my social media, etc.
I continued to ignore him best as I could but he also started contacting my parents across the country by googling them. I think he started posting on their church website + emailed my father. My parents are VERY VERY traditional and religious and I would like to keep them out of my nightlife/relationship/sexual life for obvious reasons. This guy is just making it super hard for me to ignore him. I was all irritated for a few months thinking he might pop up at my place at any moment (he did it to his ex) and I already had depression so this just made it 10000 times worse. He was stalking me online as well and finding posts I made like 6 years ago and using it against me (I haven't done anything too crazy, he just keeps on twisting the facts.) I think he might have BPD (or he fits into all the criteria) but I'm not a doctor so who knows.
He's still emailing me and calling me (I changed my phone number now so he shouldn't be able to do it anymore and I trying to not read his emails) and when I ignore him, he goes onto contact other people around me. I just want him to leave me alone and stop contacting my family. My reputation is ruined and I had to receive counseling because I was scared he might show up and hurt me or something (Also dealing with what was written in those emails was difficult too.) I honestly don't even know what he wants from me because he should know by now that we are never ever going to get back together. He's quieter now but when he was bad he was sending me a long email every 2-3 days or so. He was quiet for about 2 months or so and he just wrote me a long email and then sent something to my parents as well.
I don't know what else to do at this point to make this guy leave me alone? I'm still slightly scared he might snap and come after me in real life because I went out with him close to 2 years and this is still happening. I'm wondering if this is enough for a restraining order? I have email records and the last attempted phone call attempt.
So I went out with this guy close to 2 years ago ago (went out with him around april-july 2013) We broke up in July 2013 and he was quiet for several months. Around November 2013 he started sending me lots of emails. You could see him going on this emotional roller coaster because he was like I love you come back to me and then went into I hate you you are a dirty whore mode very quickly. I told him through an email that I no longer wanted to have any contacts with him and then he went into this crazy rage mode and called me all sorts of sexually derogatory terms. He continued to send me his super long emails. I've received around 60-70 at this point which I haven't replied to except for the one where i told him stop contacting me.
I tried my best to ignore his crazy emails but then he started calling me a whore publicly on facebook with all sorts of fabricated information. I cut contacts with bunch of people, stopped going to the church where I was going (that's where we met), closed down a lot of my social media, etc.
I continued to ignore him best as I could but he also started contacting my parents across the country by googling them. I think he started posting on their church website + emailed my father. My parents are VERY VERY traditional and religious and I would like to keep them out of my nightlife/relationship/sexual life for obvious reasons. This guy is just making it super hard for me to ignore him. I was all irritated for a few months thinking he might pop up at my place at any moment (he did it to his ex) and I already had depression so this just made it 10000 times worse. He was stalking me online as well and finding posts I made like 6 years ago and using it against me (I haven't done anything too crazy, he just keeps on twisting the facts.) I think he might have BPD (or he fits into all the criteria) but I'm not a doctor so who knows.
He's still emailing me and calling me (I changed my phone number now so he shouldn't be able to do it anymore and I trying to not read his emails) and when I ignore him, he goes onto contact other people around me. I just want him to leave me alone and stop contacting my family. My reputation is ruined and I had to receive counseling because I was scared he might show up and hurt me or something (Also dealing with what was written in those emails was difficult too.) I honestly don't even know what he wants from me because he should know by now that we are never ever going to get back together. He's quieter now but when he was bad he was sending me a long email every 2-3 days or so. He was quiet for about 2 months or so and he just wrote me a long email and then sent something to my parents as well.
I don't know what else to do at this point to make this guy leave me alone? I'm still slightly scared he might snap and come after me in real life because I went out with him close to 2 years and this is still happening. I'm wondering if this is enough for a restraining order? I have email records and the last attempted phone call attempt.