What is the name of your state? South Carolina
A year ago I was granted a divorce on the grounds of physical cruelty. What prompted the divorce was my (much overdue) decision to call the police after suffering a broken tailbone. My ex was arrested for CDV, and the charge was later changed to CDVHAN. He has since worked out a deal w/ the solicitor to have the charges dropped after he attends counseling.
In an attempt to keep my sanity, I can force myself to see the "bright side"...my children don't have the stigma of their Father being in jail...continued alimony and child support...the problem I'm facing is his continued, relentless harassment and verbal abuse.
The results of the physical injuries I suffered during 11 years in an abusive marriage are minor in comparisson to the deep scars caused by being told, daily, what a worthless loser I am. Infact, it wasn't the physical abuse that made me realize I had to get out, it was the realization that I had started to believe what he said about me! So I did it...got out! But it hasn't stopped...emails (9, today!) phone calls, and unexpected visits, threats, name-calling, lying to the children - and it's the same abuse as always.
I have so much work to do on mysef to return to the confident, vibrant person I once was...but he's destroying me! I've been to counseling, but with 3 kids and no job, the money is just no longer there. Is there anything legal (civil) I can do to stop him...or get HIM to pay for the counseling needed...or at least send a message that I'm not the only one who sees his behavior as unacceptable? (And, after dealing w/ the solicitor re/ the CDV charges, I will NEVER again file criminal charges!)
I could REALLy use some advice!