michelle29
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TN
I filed an order of protection against my ex husband because I was in fear of my safety on Tuesday 9/2. He, in the last 2 days, has called our son's high school cussing the principal for not letting his son ride to his house on the bus (our son is a minor child protected under the order), called my school board's office(I am an educator) telling them tales about me, called the law enforcement official who spoke to him 2 times the first day he was informed about the order and cursed at him, and the circuit court where the order was filed. Now it's day 3 and his mother calls me begging me crying to cancel the order so that he can see and speak to his son. She claims she is worried he will do something to himself and that for me to please cancel our son out of the order. I never intended on keeping his child from him but that was the condition of the order, or so I was lead to believe. His abuse is more verbal than physical but the threat is very existent. My son is 14 and would like to speak and see his father, which in turn upsets me greatly. I have dealt with this pattern of abuse for 18 years,...the anger...the rage...then the begging for forgiveness. I have NO doubt that he would not hurt his son, however, he gets to me through him...via cell phone. My son received 31 calls the night his dad found out about the order and 27 of them where "Let me talk to your mom". I need some advice badly. Can I take our son off the order or just cancel it altogether? If I do this, can I arrange for a drop off place where the parents NEVER have to interact. How would I communicate with him about our son without the verbally abuse that always ensues and has nothing to do with our son.
Please help>
I filed an order of protection against my ex husband because I was in fear of my safety on Tuesday 9/2. He, in the last 2 days, has called our son's high school cussing the principal for not letting his son ride to his house on the bus (our son is a minor child protected under the order), called my school board's office(I am an educator) telling them tales about me, called the law enforcement official who spoke to him 2 times the first day he was informed about the order and cursed at him, and the circuit court where the order was filed. Now it's day 3 and his mother calls me begging me crying to cancel the order so that he can see and speak to his son. She claims she is worried he will do something to himself and that for me to please cancel our son out of the order. I never intended on keeping his child from him but that was the condition of the order, or so I was lead to believe. His abuse is more verbal than physical but the threat is very existent. My son is 14 and would like to speak and see his father, which in turn upsets me greatly. I have dealt with this pattern of abuse for 18 years,...the anger...the rage...then the begging for forgiveness. I have NO doubt that he would not hurt his son, however, he gets to me through him...via cell phone. My son received 31 calls the night his dad found out about the order and 27 of them where "Let me talk to your mom". I need some advice badly. Can I take our son off the order or just cancel it altogether? If I do this, can I arrange for a drop off place where the parents NEVER have to interact. How would I communicate with him about our son without the verbally abuse that always ensues and has nothing to do with our son.
Please help>