charged with neglect/failure to protect 11 years ago and it still haunts me!!!!

[candidagreat]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?Michigan
Hi, here's my story.It was 11 years ago and I had a 3 year old daughter, and just had a newborn baby girl. It came out that the man that I had been with for 3 years was molesting my girls. He was my girls dad!!!! Well for the last 11 years he has been in and out of prison, which they should of just chopped his well you know. And for me life has been hard but me and the girls survived. I was charged neglect/failure to protect even though I had no knowledge that this was going on. So I am not allowed to work in daycares or nurseing homes. Well my niece wanted to if I could start babysitting for her, she doesn't have much money so she's going through the state. I don't think the state will pay me because I'm not suppose to be with kids which is so unfair!!! My question is how long will this stupid charge be on my record I was told many different things, and I want to find someone that can give me the truth.I love children and it's not fair that a monster can molest your children and your the bad one how crazy is that?????

[casa]

Originally Posted by candidagreat

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?Michigan
Hi, here's my story.It was 11 years ago and I had a 3 year old daughter, and just had a newborn baby girl. It came out that the man that I had been with for 3 years was molesting my girls. He was my girls dad!!!! Well for the last 11 years he has been in and out of prison, which they should of just chopped his well you know. And for me life has been hard but me and the girls survived. I was charged neglect/failure to protect even though I had no knowledge that this was going on. So I am not allowed to work in daycares or nurseing homes. Well my niece wanted to if I could start babysitting for her, she doesn't have much money so she's going through the state. I don't think the state will pay me because I'm not suppose to be with kids which is so unfair!!! My question is how long will this stupid charge be on my record I was told many different things, and I want to find someone that can give me the truth.I love children and it's not fair that a monster can molest your children and your the bad one how crazy is that?????

You'd have to contact the state agency that charged you and ask that question.

FYI- you aren't charged with neglect/failure to protect just because your spouse molests your children...so there had to be some evidence you knew it was happening and doing nothing to stop it, or covering up for it. I must admit that having worked with children, it is a very rare occasion when a parent in the home 24/7 does not suspect molest when it is occuring right under their nose...however, if you genuinely 'missed' it, then it's safe to assume you could 'miss it' again in the future- which is the reason you aren't trusted to care for/protect children.

[candidagreat]

I'm sorry but there is no way in hell that I would let someone molest my kids. And no we weren't married, and no there was no evidence that I knew what was happening to my babies. What kind of monster would that make me? The kind that should not have lived another day on this earth. I am really sorry I even typed anything on this stupid site, I guess I thought there was a real lawyer that could answer my questions, but I was wrong.