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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? OK
My mother's ex-husband sexually abused me. The statute of limitations has passed.
How can I prevent this from happening to another child? I did not recognize the things he did to me clearly until I became sexually active. (Predators are able to make situations appear different than they are). As a child, I told adults in my life the things that occurred and they didn't understand the situation fully, either, because he was very capable of masking and manipulating everything.
As I realized this an adult, he was already out of our lives. The court had awarded my mother full custody based on his physical abuse and he was only allowed to see his children on supervised visits. He chose not to see them again. He also could not visit our city country after he stopped paying child support.
It was a relief that he was gone. I didn't see a point in letting my little siblings grow up with this in their minds. Or in making my biological parents suffer with this knowledge.
My first boyfriend was the only one I ever told.
He also abused my older sister once when she was very young and as a teenager brought it to the courts attention during the divorce but was told if she said anything about him, she could be in trouble without proof.
At that time, he was working in schools as a consultant.
Knowing there was nothing that could be done with her truth made me feel powerless with mine. My sister still copes with her abuse and has told my parents but I can't bring myself to do that to them.
Now this is coming back again over these past years. In part because the world has changed so much with the internet and I am anxious any time I see my name come up in a search.
It is so easy for anyone to access your life online. I am nervous to make any of my profiles public or see my siblings profiles public because I don't want him to have a window. I don’t need social media, but it is necessary to have a professional profile sometimes. I have thought about changing my last name….
Those are only my personal concerns, though.
He is still a predator. Children are at risk.
I need understand if there is anything I can do Now to prevent another child.
Then I can move past this with understanding that I did what I could.
My mother's ex-husband sexually abused me. The statute of limitations has passed.
How can I prevent this from happening to another child? I did not recognize the things he did to me clearly until I became sexually active. (Predators are able to make situations appear different than they are). As a child, I told adults in my life the things that occurred and they didn't understand the situation fully, either, because he was very capable of masking and manipulating everything.
As I realized this an adult, he was already out of our lives. The court had awarded my mother full custody based on his physical abuse and he was only allowed to see his children on supervised visits. He chose not to see them again. He also could not visit our city country after he stopped paying child support.
It was a relief that he was gone. I didn't see a point in letting my little siblings grow up with this in their minds. Or in making my biological parents suffer with this knowledge.
My first boyfriend was the only one I ever told.
He also abused my older sister once when she was very young and as a teenager brought it to the courts attention during the divorce but was told if she said anything about him, she could be in trouble without proof.
At that time, he was working in schools as a consultant.
Knowing there was nothing that could be done with her truth made me feel powerless with mine. My sister still copes with her abuse and has told my parents but I can't bring myself to do that to them.
Now this is coming back again over these past years. In part because the world has changed so much with the internet and I am anxious any time I see my name come up in a search.
It is so easy for anyone to access your life online. I am nervous to make any of my profiles public or see my siblings profiles public because I don't want him to have a window. I don’t need social media, but it is necessary to have a professional profile sometimes. I have thought about changing my last name….
Those are only my personal concerns, though.
He is still a predator. Children are at risk.
I need understand if there is anything I can do Now to prevent another child.
Then I can move past this with understanding that I did what I could.
