bananasoup
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
I have primary custody of our 2 boys, ages 9 and 4. They see their father on a standard visitation schedule about 3 times a week - the father voluntarily suspended overnight visits because of his poor living condition (he lives in an abandoned office).
It came out during our marriage that my ex had molested his sister many times. She was 4 and 5, he was 15, 16. He had her perform oral sex on him. It is common knowledge throughout his large family. It was never reported to authorities. (the family found out when he was in his early 20's) he never received counseling for it. During our marriage he was addicted to internet porn and movies. All of it related to oral sex. He was in sexaholics anonymous for a time.
DCF investigated about a year ago and their conclusion was that the children were at risk and were possibly being "groomed" by him for abuse. They did not however think there was any possibility of doing anything about it since nothing had "happened". The children reported rather innocuous experiences - spooning with him and them in their underwear, seeing porn on his cell phone.
I have dcf investigating once again, because the first time my ex had the younger boy alone last week I found them at his place in bed together at 4 in the afternoon. It has been suggested to me that I was stupid to not seek supervised visitation a year ago.
How can I find a balance between their relationship with their father whom they love and protecting them? Any advice would be appreciated. I have taught them about rights and wrongs of safety but our older son is emotionally disturbed.
I have primary custody of our 2 boys, ages 9 and 4. They see their father on a standard visitation schedule about 3 times a week - the father voluntarily suspended overnight visits because of his poor living condition (he lives in an abandoned office).
It came out during our marriage that my ex had molested his sister many times. She was 4 and 5, he was 15, 16. He had her perform oral sex on him. It is common knowledge throughout his large family. It was never reported to authorities. (the family found out when he was in his early 20's) he never received counseling for it. During our marriage he was addicted to internet porn and movies. All of it related to oral sex. He was in sexaholics anonymous for a time.
DCF investigated about a year ago and their conclusion was that the children were at risk and were possibly being "groomed" by him for abuse. They did not however think there was any possibility of doing anything about it since nothing had "happened". The children reported rather innocuous experiences - spooning with him and them in their underwear, seeing porn on his cell phone.
I have dcf investigating once again, because the first time my ex had the younger boy alone last week I found them at his place in bed together at 4 in the afternoon. It has been suggested to me that I was stupid to not seek supervised visitation a year ago.
How can I find a balance between their relationship with their father whom they love and protecting them? Any advice would be appreciated. I have taught them about rights and wrongs of safety but our older son is emotionally disturbed.