chinacat13
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? PA
whats up? My name is m. I have a PFA order that allows contact between us only for communication about the children. He has the children and has completely blew the custody order off too. He and mother has even said, the custody order is "not set in stone." But anyway, i have recieved 145 text messages from him since march 11...after the PFA was served. Most are a clever mix of stuff about the kids, his girlfriend, insults, and legal threats. there are days when I have recieved as many as 16 messages from him in as little as a few hours. I have called the cops a ton of times for the calls and texts, but they wont arrest him because they say the PFA is too "grey."
As long as the messages say at least something about the kids, they will not arrest him, because he is still protected under freedom of speech. I am a supporter of the Constitution, but damn...what about my protection as a victim. THIS MAN HAS AND STILL IS DESTROYING MY LIFE! They said they can pretty much only enforce a no contact order...so basically my PFA is useless. He has called me as recent as tuesday and threatened me with legal action for false reports to the police and called me a "deadbeat." He called my boyfriends job and proceeded to say "im still ****ing your girlfriend and her fat hangs over her pussy you emo loving ******." the manager of the restruant got on the phone and he told her the same thing. josh knows his voice because my ex and i have known josh for years. he even identifued himself over the phone! they called the cops because my boyfriend is protected by the PFA. the cops did nothing. a few weeks before that we recieved a ranodm message from a made up person on face book saying the same thing. Every visit exchange he like to call me "flabby" or a "fat ****." i always have a witness, my best friend of 10 years, with me. Its sad because it upsets all of us, and mostly the children. It ruins our visits. Of course my ex will always insist he did nothing and that i am crazy or on drugs. this makes me an wreck because he was VERY mentally and emotional abusive during our marriage and I cant take it anymore! He is very good at what he does, the man was an excellent salesman for years. I was advised by a DJ to file a criminal complaint form, which i did. It was accepted by the DA and i have hearing set for June 14th. Problem is, I have no attorney, so i hope to god the DA is kinda acting as my attorney. He has money and his family has political/police pull as his stepdad was a DA in this corrupt county for over 30 years...I hope im not screwed because my kids, myself, my boyfriend, my family and friends...we cant take the harrassment and stalking anymore! I miss my kids and im tired of him trying to ruin my relationship with them and trying to make them hate me! its putting a strain on all my relationships, our jobs...does anyone know about this and how it works in court. im scared.
whats up? My name is m. I have a PFA order that allows contact between us only for communication about the children. He has the children and has completely blew the custody order off too. He and mother has even said, the custody order is "not set in stone." But anyway, i have recieved 145 text messages from him since march 11...after the PFA was served. Most are a clever mix of stuff about the kids, his girlfriend, insults, and legal threats. there are days when I have recieved as many as 16 messages from him in as little as a few hours. I have called the cops a ton of times for the calls and texts, but they wont arrest him because they say the PFA is too "grey."
As long as the messages say at least something about the kids, they will not arrest him, because he is still protected under freedom of speech. I am a supporter of the Constitution, but damn...what about my protection as a victim. THIS MAN HAS AND STILL IS DESTROYING MY LIFE! They said they can pretty much only enforce a no contact order...so basically my PFA is useless. He has called me as recent as tuesday and threatened me with legal action for false reports to the police and called me a "deadbeat." He called my boyfriends job and proceeded to say "im still ****ing your girlfriend and her fat hangs over her pussy you emo loving ******." the manager of the restruant got on the phone and he told her the same thing. josh knows his voice because my ex and i have known josh for years. he even identifued himself over the phone! they called the cops because my boyfriend is protected by the PFA. the cops did nothing. a few weeks before that we recieved a ranodm message from a made up person on face book saying the same thing. Every visit exchange he like to call me "flabby" or a "fat ****." i always have a witness, my best friend of 10 years, with me. Its sad because it upsets all of us, and mostly the children. It ruins our visits. Of course my ex will always insist he did nothing and that i am crazy or on drugs. this makes me an wreck because he was VERY mentally and emotional abusive during our marriage and I cant take it anymore! He is very good at what he does, the man was an excellent salesman for years. I was advised by a DJ to file a criminal complaint form, which i did. It was accepted by the DA and i have hearing set for June 14th. Problem is, I have no attorney, so i hope to god the DA is kinda acting as my attorney. He has money and his family has political/police pull as his stepdad was a DA in this corrupt county for over 30 years...I hope im not screwed because my kids, myself, my boyfriend, my family and friends...we cant take the harrassment and stalking anymore! I miss my kids and im tired of him trying to ruin my relationship with them and trying to make them hate me! its putting a strain on all my relationships, our jobs...does anyone know about this and how it works in court. im scared.
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