What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas
My mother-in-law is highly abusive toward my husband and his siblings. When she does not immediately get her way she calls all of her friends and tells them that we are horrible people and are abusing her. She also tries to turn the siblings against each other however they are all on good terms and do not believe anything she says (they exchange emails and phone calls on a semi-regular basis and all have been the recipients of this abuse).
The things that she gets upset about include; calling my husband at work and telling him that her porch light went out and she needs him to come home RIGHT NOW to change it. When he doesn't drop everything and come running she calls a handyman to change it who charges her $50 and then she complains to us that she had to call him. This is just one of MANY things she blames us for.
Anytime she gets overly upset with us (for whatever reason) she calls her home-healthcare worker sobbing and telling her that we are upsetting her. Then she and the home-healthcare worker threaten to call adult protective services on us because her level of distress is such that it affects her mental health (she has a prescription for Xanax but does not take it and has been on anti-depressants before but refuses to take them because she doesn't like the way they make her feel).
My husband is an authorized signer on her checking account (due to a period of time she spent in the hospital several years ago but he has not signed ANY of her checks or spent ANY of her money in the past 4 years), he does not give her advice on how to spend her money and we do not take responsibility for her health care (she is 72 and in poor physical condition due to weight issues but is able to get around on her own though she does not like to). We have kept up her yard and occasionally taken her meals but due to the current situation we are not on speaking terms with her. Today she told one of her grandchildren that she when (my mother-in-law) dies she is going to have money set aside for security at her funeral to make sure that my husband, myself, and her oldest daughter cannot attend her funeral.
Unfortunately we live about 50 yards from her and do not want to sell our home to get away from her. If she actually does file a complaint of elder abuse how is the best way to prove our innocence (there are many people (not just the siblings) who would testify that she is vindictive, manipulative and spiteful towards anyone who does not give her what she wants) and what can we do to have her evaluated for mental illness (because things have reached a point where we are questioning her mental stability)? What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?