Many victims of DV also minimize or do not report the abuses at all, making it even more difficult to protect the victim and the children (in those cases). This is particularly true when the victim is male, the perp female. DV against men is statistically the most under-reported crime. Tragically, when men DO report such, there has been a long established history of perceiving the male as USUALLY the perp, even despite evidence. Also, law enforcement really has very little training or understanding of what really is DV, particularly when no apparent "violence" has occurred. In my situation, (see today's posting "Emotional Abuse and Joint Parenting"), the DA had attempted prosecuting me of telephone harassment based on my placing 6 calls in one hour, and another after 11pm, on a day of the week that civil court orders mandated such "parenting conferences" occur. Four of those calls were recorded messages pertaining to urgent parenting issues, two "hang-ups", and one a conversation with our daughter. Now, because I neglected to report 5 previous assaults perpetrated by my spouse (now ex-), when she was arrested for assault: as per Colorado Statutes being the second police contact related to DV, both of us were arrested, and I was more severely punished (for harassment). Then, as per telephone harassment, when the ex-spouse had called me at work 48 times in one day, 14 times in 40 minutes, 28 times in half an hour, on and on . . . the DA assumed I was "retaliating" to report such, despite repeated attempts by law enforcement to supplement reports with phone bills and repeatedly submitting complaints?! I was not protected, even when proper authorities were notified of the facts.
Now, if this boyfriend has in the very least done anything "remotely resembling" DV, and if there is ANY evidence other than your "testimony," you should expect his prosecution and pray he gets the help he needs. This is for the protection of YOU, any children, and his future partners. PERIOD. Getting soft only subjects yourself and others to further victimizations, and is MOST LIKELY. I learned the hard way.
And if you DID actually fabricate or falsify a report, and this can be proved beyond a reasonable doubt, you probably don't have much to worry about consequences to yourself. Maybe the DA will eventually dismiss the case, as in my recent situation, and temporarily forget about the boyfriend. BUT, should this really be the case - perhaps YOU need the help (DV counseling) to protect YOUR children and future partnerships. Really.