What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
Background:
We've had custody of our 14 year old grandson for 9 years. This school year we put him in a new school that was more convenient for extra-curricular activities. He wanted this change. We had a deal, he'd do his homework without me nagging, denying privileges, etc., I'd get him to anything he wanted to do that fit in his schedule. He didn't keep his end of the deal and feared I'd put him back in his old school. He claimed 'mental abuse' because I yelled at him and he got CPS involved. They removed him based on GS claiming he'd kill himself if he stayed with us.
3 weeks after CPS took our GS I got my second visit with him. He had his phone, texted me he wanted his dress pants. I wanted proof he wasn't destroying a book I had given him(I had found out some 'accidents' were deliberate acts of destruction before CPS took him). He cursed me and demanded the pants. When I saw him I asked for an apology. He refused, and screamed that I had destroyed his trust and he never wanted to see me again. That was out of character for him and the tantrum landed him in the hospital where I later learned he met up with his girlfriend.
This is what the GAL has done:
The GAL proceeded to get a 'no visitation' order in place after GS said he never wanted to see me again. That was in place for 7 weeks, despite GS asking for visits after 4 weeks. GS was moved 3 times during those 7 weeks, finally ending up in a group home. Unfortunately, when visits were restored, GS started demanding money and implied he'd stop the visits if I didn't give him money. He received money at the home when he did his chores so I refused to give him money. He claimed I told him to kill himself and ended back in the hospital for the 7th time. GAL again put a 'no visitation' order in place. That was 3 months ago. He said he would remove it when GS's counselor said visits were in order. The problem is, that counselor was finally getting a clue about GS's manipulative behavior when CPS moved him again and caseworkers were changed 2 more times. The group home wanted him out due to his behavior. He has another counselor now, who has only heard GS's story, not us, and she is buying into his abuse claims. GS refuses to admit he's lied and I've heard he's not compliant with treatment. A psych eval was finally done and reveals his medications are not warranted.
GAL's 'no visit' order has kept CPS from doing anything on their reunification plan.
Bottom line, we are dealing with a kid with a personality disorder very much like his mother has, and no one has to remind me he is in a hole he has dug for himself. But CPS has not gotten him the treatment he needs and the GAL's 'no visit' orders have thwarted progress for reunification where we could get him the treatment he needs. Is it appropriate for the GAL to stop visits because a 14 year old throws a tantrum? I asked the GAL this, when we get visits again the 14 year old will likely demand money, what should I do? Do I give him money to ensure visits continue, or not give him money and he'll stop visits? Either way, his manipulative behavior will be rewarded. GAL said that wasn't his problem, I should ask my lawyer.
Background:
We've had custody of our 14 year old grandson for 9 years. This school year we put him in a new school that was more convenient for extra-curricular activities. He wanted this change. We had a deal, he'd do his homework without me nagging, denying privileges, etc., I'd get him to anything he wanted to do that fit in his schedule. He didn't keep his end of the deal and feared I'd put him back in his old school. He claimed 'mental abuse' because I yelled at him and he got CPS involved. They removed him based on GS claiming he'd kill himself if he stayed with us.
3 weeks after CPS took our GS I got my second visit with him. He had his phone, texted me he wanted his dress pants. I wanted proof he wasn't destroying a book I had given him(I had found out some 'accidents' were deliberate acts of destruction before CPS took him). He cursed me and demanded the pants. When I saw him I asked for an apology. He refused, and screamed that I had destroyed his trust and he never wanted to see me again. That was out of character for him and the tantrum landed him in the hospital where I later learned he met up with his girlfriend.
This is what the GAL has done:
The GAL proceeded to get a 'no visitation' order in place after GS said he never wanted to see me again. That was in place for 7 weeks, despite GS asking for visits after 4 weeks. GS was moved 3 times during those 7 weeks, finally ending up in a group home. Unfortunately, when visits were restored, GS started demanding money and implied he'd stop the visits if I didn't give him money. He received money at the home when he did his chores so I refused to give him money. He claimed I told him to kill himself and ended back in the hospital for the 7th time. GAL again put a 'no visitation' order in place. That was 3 months ago. He said he would remove it when GS's counselor said visits were in order. The problem is, that counselor was finally getting a clue about GS's manipulative behavior when CPS moved him again and caseworkers were changed 2 more times. The group home wanted him out due to his behavior. He has another counselor now, who has only heard GS's story, not us, and she is buying into his abuse claims. GS refuses to admit he's lied and I've heard he's not compliant with treatment. A psych eval was finally done and reveals his medications are not warranted.
GAL's 'no visit' order has kept CPS from doing anything on their reunification plan.
Bottom line, we are dealing with a kid with a personality disorder very much like his mother has, and no one has to remind me he is in a hole he has dug for himself. But CPS has not gotten him the treatment he needs and the GAL's 'no visit' orders have thwarted progress for reunification where we could get him the treatment he needs. Is it appropriate for the GAL to stop visits because a 14 year old throws a tantrum? I asked the GAL this, when we get visits again the 14 year old will likely demand money, what should I do? Do I give him money to ensure visits continue, or not give him money and he'll stop visits? Either way, his manipulative behavior will be rewarded. GAL said that wasn't his problem, I should ask my lawyer.