telepathy1994
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One of my friend and co-workers has completely lost hope today, and I am trying to see if there is anything she can do, though she has already searched everywhere. Here's as much of the story as I know:
(We'll call my friend B, and her son J, the father D)
J is 3 years old. He told his grand mother that his dad had been touching him in a bad spot. She told B, and when she confronted J, he told her about it. So she went to cops and it turned into a court case. At the time she couldn't tell anyone what was going on until evidence and such was collected, so I am probably missing some info from there, but I'll try to explain as much as I can. D of course denied that he was molesting his son. They did a polygraph test that showed that he may have been lying, but that can not be used in court in Minnesota. J was also interviewed by a police officer, where he told the police officer he had been touched in a bad spot by his dad. Unfortunetly, the whole interview was thrown out because the officer had conducted the interview improperly. They said they could not interview J again. The case was pretty hopeless after that, so D soon had custody of J again, but the case was supposed to be left open for 5 weeks with certain rules that he had to follow, and someone to drop in every once in awhile to make sure they were being followed. D would ignore B's phone calls, the officer who was supposed to drop in rarely did, it seemed that no one really cared. B was crying uncontrollably, afraid that her baby boy would continue to be abused by his father. Today she comes in crying once again. I asked what was wrong, and she told me that they had completely closed the case and D would no longer be watched or have to follow the rules. Which was even more upsetting for her, because the day before she had brought J to his therapist, where he told the therapist that there was someone staying in the house, which was against the rules, and only when his mother left the room, told the therapist that D was asking him to sleep in bed with him, which was also breaking the rules agreed to. And since he would only tell the therapist when his mother left, she assumes that D is telling his son not to tell mommy.
She is now considering trying to get full custody, but does not have the money to afford a laywer, and apparently gets paid to much for legal aid, though she gets paid not much over minimum wage. She's also contacted VIP, and social services to see if she can get help, no luck. She is so hopeless, and just absolutely heart broken and devastated. I have no idea what to do for her, but I want to help. I told her that I would look on the internet, see if there was anything I could find.
Is there anything? I thought maybe someone on these forums could help.
Edit:
She and her son live in Minnesota. I apologize it could not be her making the post, I told her I would try to find the info on the web for her.
(We'll call my friend B, and her son J, the father D)
J is 3 years old. He told his grand mother that his dad had been touching him in a bad spot. She told B, and when she confronted J, he told her about it. So she went to cops and it turned into a court case. At the time she couldn't tell anyone what was going on until evidence and such was collected, so I am probably missing some info from there, but I'll try to explain as much as I can. D of course denied that he was molesting his son. They did a polygraph test that showed that he may have been lying, but that can not be used in court in Minnesota. J was also interviewed by a police officer, where he told the police officer he had been touched in a bad spot by his dad. Unfortunetly, the whole interview was thrown out because the officer had conducted the interview improperly. They said they could not interview J again. The case was pretty hopeless after that, so D soon had custody of J again, but the case was supposed to be left open for 5 weeks with certain rules that he had to follow, and someone to drop in every once in awhile to make sure they were being followed. D would ignore B's phone calls, the officer who was supposed to drop in rarely did, it seemed that no one really cared. B was crying uncontrollably, afraid that her baby boy would continue to be abused by his father. Today she comes in crying once again. I asked what was wrong, and she told me that they had completely closed the case and D would no longer be watched or have to follow the rules. Which was even more upsetting for her, because the day before she had brought J to his therapist, where he told the therapist that there was someone staying in the house, which was against the rules, and only when his mother left the room, told the therapist that D was asking him to sleep in bed with him, which was also breaking the rules agreed to. And since he would only tell the therapist when his mother left, she assumes that D is telling his son not to tell mommy.
She is now considering trying to get full custody, but does not have the money to afford a laywer, and apparently gets paid to much for legal aid, though she gets paid not much over minimum wage. She's also contacted VIP, and social services to see if she can get help, no luck. She is so hopeless, and just absolutely heart broken and devastated. I have no idea what to do for her, but I want to help. I told her that I would look on the internet, see if there was anything I could find.
Is there anything? I thought maybe someone on these forums could help.
Edit:
She and her son live in Minnesota. I apologize it could not be her making the post, I told her I would try to find the info on the web for her.
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