Hoosiermomof4
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana
I am that woman who has "stayed b/c of the kids" and I am that woman who always gives him another chance. So please no flames, this is scary and hard for me and I'm an emotional wreck and praying I have the strength to follow through.
Married x 7 yrs, 2 children. History of abuse, physical few times, police called, reports made. He was arrested and charged twice, but both times after either bailed out or sitting in jail a day or two it was dropped. I would say that 99% is verbal/emotional. I am just not even admitting that this is a type of abuse. Name calling, anything from a jerk to a c**t, bi***, so on and so on, I've been spit on, told he hopes I die of aids, or get into a car crash. You get the picture, yes this has happened in front of the kids, usually always in front of kids.
I have filed before and dropped it twice b/c he swears things will get better. He's an alcoholic, drug abuser, back and forth w/ sobority and not.
Today I called legal aid to apply for assistance in filing for divorce again. We are living together and he's not working. He was getting unemployment but I think that's done. He refuses to look for work always citing that if he still lived in NY where he's from he could make 800 a week and here he can't make much (in NY he worked for cash with friend so no taxes, etc.)
I am wondering if when I file for divorce, assuming I will need to do this myself without an attny do I put abuse somewhere in the paperwork? I don't want to do a R/O b/c i want him to continue to see his kids. It's just we are not good together, and not knowing if he would move back to NY or not.
If he did move away and worked for cash, would I get any support? If he stays in Indiana would court make him work? or would I not get support that way either? Does abuse like this have affect on divorce or would that only be brought up in custody case, or if RO was requested?
I'm just scared of all sides.
I am that woman who has "stayed b/c of the kids" and I am that woman who always gives him another chance. So please no flames, this is scary and hard for me and I'm an emotional wreck and praying I have the strength to follow through.
Married x 7 yrs, 2 children. History of abuse, physical few times, police called, reports made. He was arrested and charged twice, but both times after either bailed out or sitting in jail a day or two it was dropped. I would say that 99% is verbal/emotional. I am just not even admitting that this is a type of abuse. Name calling, anything from a jerk to a c**t, bi***, so on and so on, I've been spit on, told he hopes I die of aids, or get into a car crash. You get the picture, yes this has happened in front of the kids, usually always in front of kids.
I have filed before and dropped it twice b/c he swears things will get better. He's an alcoholic, drug abuser, back and forth w/ sobority and not.
Today I called legal aid to apply for assistance in filing for divorce again. We are living together and he's not working. He was getting unemployment but I think that's done. He refuses to look for work always citing that if he still lived in NY where he's from he could make 800 a week and here he can't make much (in NY he worked for cash with friend so no taxes, etc.)
I am wondering if when I file for divorce, assuming I will need to do this myself without an attny do I put abuse somewhere in the paperwork? I don't want to do a R/O b/c i want him to continue to see his kids. It's just we are not good together, and not knowing if he would move back to NY or not.
If he did move away and worked for cash, would I get any support? If he stays in Indiana would court make him work? or would I not get support that way either? Does abuse like this have affect on divorce or would that only be brought up in custody case, or if RO was requested?
I'm just scared of all sides.