What is the name of your state? Maryland
(sorry this is long, but with paragraph breaks )
My daughter of 17 recently confessed that her stepfather, my husband, was sexually abused him when she was 12.
She has come forth with this information due to an email sent to her from him of pictures that she took of herself (stomach and legs - no sexual tendancies, just playing around with the camera by herself) She feels that he is using these pictures in some way and is uncomfortable about it.
When I approached my husband about it, he at first denied ever seeing these pictures. I saw the email with the pictures on it. These emails have since been deleted (by him.)
I finally approached him regarding the abuse last night. He swears to me that he has never and would never sexually assault her or any of his children (we have two, together as well as my 2 older children from previous marriage) and would never do anything that would ruin our lives and jeopardize his children's livelihood.
I'm at a loss. I want to make the right decision on this. Part of me believes my husband that he would never do anything like this. He is constantly checking on my daughter and her internet use to be sure that she is safe and checks all of her messages that she posts on MySpace. However, with this new news, I don't know what to think.
The next thing, he admitted last night that he has a pornography addiction. Every chance that he has, he watches adult porn on the internet. He has never done it so the kids can see him, but he now realizes that this is a sickness and he has asked me for help.
I want to support my daughter and help her through this and I want to help my husband through his problem. I don't want to ruin my family's life. What should I do?
Where do I turn to?
I don't want to get child protective services involved, but I'm afraid that they will be.