What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
My business partner is also my ex-girlfriend. Well, we had some fight about something, I don't even remember, and she got *very* upset... except I didn't know that she was upset. Suddenly she stopped responding to all communication, disconnected her phone, and then actually left the city for a couple of weeks. I was in a total panic, thinking something horrible had happened. I was frantic to find her and see if she was ok, and I searched everywhere and sent a billion, trillion emails. She was gone almost 3 weeks! I even called missing persons at one point.
And so, when she returns, she puts a restraining order on me for stalking... Except that, in a sense, it's true. But it wasn't intentional stalking, I was just terrified for her life.
Is there even any defense at all? The thing is, I don't want to hurt or scare her, this was totally my fault for jumping to conclusions and overreacting... but at the same time, I don't want a restraining order on me, that feels like such a weight.
I'm not sure what to do.
Edit: I just noticed I have a voicemail from her just little while before she vanished. On this day we had been arguing and I stopped answering my phone. She had called me *many* times in a row, and in the voicemail she says explictly, "Look, this is what people do when they cant to talk to someone who won't answer. They call over and over and over. I'm going to KEEP calling until you pick up."
Would it be reasonable to use that in court to show that she used the same kind of tactics, just a few days before?
My business partner is also my ex-girlfriend. Well, we had some fight about something, I don't even remember, and she got *very* upset... except I didn't know that she was upset. Suddenly she stopped responding to all communication, disconnected her phone, and then actually left the city for a couple of weeks. I was in a total panic, thinking something horrible had happened. I was frantic to find her and see if she was ok, and I searched everywhere and sent a billion, trillion emails. She was gone almost 3 weeks! I even called missing persons at one point.
And so, when she returns, she puts a restraining order on me for stalking... Except that, in a sense, it's true. But it wasn't intentional stalking, I was just terrified for her life.
Is there even any defense at all? The thing is, I don't want to hurt or scare her, this was totally my fault for jumping to conclusions and overreacting... but at the same time, I don't want a restraining order on me, that feels like such a weight.
I'm not sure what to do.
Edit: I just noticed I have a voicemail from her just little while before she vanished. On this day we had been arguing and I stopped answering my phone. She had called me *many* times in a row, and in the voicemail she says explictly, "Look, this is what people do when they cant to talk to someone who won't answer. They call over and over and over. I'm going to KEEP calling until you pick up."
Would it be reasonable to use that in court to show that she used the same kind of tactics, just a few days before?
Last edited:
