I live in Pennsylvania.
Alright, so I'm new to the forums and didn't know where to post this but here goes.
I am 20 years old, full-time working and a student as well. A couple of months ago I went to move back in with my dad after staying with my mother for a bit. Once I landed a pretty decent job, my dad started to financially depend on me more and more. Back story: my dad doesn't work, he is HIV+, living off of the system, drug user, alcoholic, etc. As I was trying to save up money for when school starts up again he would ask me for money for gas, cigarettes, beer, plane tickets, different miscelleanous things, under the premise he would pay me back. Whenever I would object he would get defensive, start yelling, cursing, threatening to kick me out, saying no one helps him, he pays his bills alone, and lastly threatening me physical harm.
I have the bank statements showing cash withdraws, as well as different transactions at different stores and different things. I also have transactions of me making deposits of two different amounts (where he paid me back some of the money he would use from me). In about a month, my father took and used about 800 dollars from me. He paid me back about 350 or so. I have text messages of him asking for money from me, and me stating that he hadn't paid me back for the money he used before. Many times he would say ok, you gonna give me the money or not?
About a week ago, he told me to report my card stolen so that my bank could reimburse me for a plane ticket for my sister. I told him I wouldn't be committing fraud and he made the decision to buy the ticket, I wasn't going to do something illegal just because he changed his mind. He said ok fine and left. ONce he came back he started insulting me, threatening me, telling me that no one likes me, everyone hates me, no one wants me in their lives because I'm an *******. He threatened to beat me over the head with an alluminum bat etc., I couldn't take it anymore, the emotional, verbal and financial abuse was too much. So I left. I asked my aunt to go pick up some things I left over there and he refused to give her my computer that he bought for me as a gift in December of 2009. That was the computer I used for my college work etc. So I said, fine not a big deal, gave him a call and said that if he was going to refuse to give me that back then pay at least half the money he owes me by the end of the month. He said he doesn't owe me anything because I sold a broken tv he gave me (he gave me a small tv for college, it broke and I sold it to a repair shop for a couple bucks). Basically, I don't know what to do. I want him to pay me back. I have the exact amounts he owes me etc.
Also, lastly, he has a suspended license, one day he was under the influence of cocaine and alcohol and he raced down a street. A cop pulled him over and his only form of identication was my SSN in his pocket. NOw his 1500 in parking/traffic tickets are coming under my name. I called traffic court and they said that it is under his license number but my name. My dad tried to manipulate me into taking the blame for his speeding situation, and threatened me saying "would you rather me go to jail?" So yeah I know it is a lot but I really don't know what to do, at least I'm out of there, I'm safe, and I'm not starving. I would like to know how to get my money back (if he can even pay it off because he will say he doesn't work and has no money), how do I get a protection order and what to do about the traffic court situation?
Any help would be amazing! Thanks everyone. I'll try to clarify anything that I stated before, sorry I'm really nervous and frantic.
Alright, so I'm new to the forums and didn't know where to post this but here goes.
I am 20 years old, full-time working and a student as well. A couple of months ago I went to move back in with my dad after staying with my mother for a bit. Once I landed a pretty decent job, my dad started to financially depend on me more and more. Back story: my dad doesn't work, he is HIV+, living off of the system, drug user, alcoholic, etc. As I was trying to save up money for when school starts up again he would ask me for money for gas, cigarettes, beer, plane tickets, different miscelleanous things, under the premise he would pay me back. Whenever I would object he would get defensive, start yelling, cursing, threatening to kick me out, saying no one helps him, he pays his bills alone, and lastly threatening me physical harm.
I have the bank statements showing cash withdraws, as well as different transactions at different stores and different things. I also have transactions of me making deposits of two different amounts (where he paid me back some of the money he would use from me). In about a month, my father took and used about 800 dollars from me. He paid me back about 350 or so. I have text messages of him asking for money from me, and me stating that he hadn't paid me back for the money he used before. Many times he would say ok, you gonna give me the money or not?
About a week ago, he told me to report my card stolen so that my bank could reimburse me for a plane ticket for my sister. I told him I wouldn't be committing fraud and he made the decision to buy the ticket, I wasn't going to do something illegal just because he changed his mind. He said ok fine and left. ONce he came back he started insulting me, threatening me, telling me that no one likes me, everyone hates me, no one wants me in their lives because I'm an *******. He threatened to beat me over the head with an alluminum bat etc., I couldn't take it anymore, the emotional, verbal and financial abuse was too much. So I left. I asked my aunt to go pick up some things I left over there and he refused to give her my computer that he bought for me as a gift in December of 2009. That was the computer I used for my college work etc. So I said, fine not a big deal, gave him a call and said that if he was going to refuse to give me that back then pay at least half the money he owes me by the end of the month. He said he doesn't owe me anything because I sold a broken tv he gave me (he gave me a small tv for college, it broke and I sold it to a repair shop for a couple bucks). Basically, I don't know what to do. I want him to pay me back. I have the exact amounts he owes me etc.
Also, lastly, he has a suspended license, one day he was under the influence of cocaine and alcohol and he raced down a street. A cop pulled him over and his only form of identication was my SSN in his pocket. NOw his 1500 in parking/traffic tickets are coming under my name. I called traffic court and they said that it is under his license number but my name. My dad tried to manipulate me into taking the blame for his speeding situation, and threatened me saying "would you rather me go to jail?" So yeah I know it is a lot but I really don't know what to do, at least I'm out of there, I'm safe, and I'm not starving. I would like to know how to get my money back (if he can even pay it off because he will say he doesn't work and has no money), how do I get a protection order and what to do about the traffic court situation?
Any help would be amazing! Thanks everyone. I'll try to clarify anything that I stated before, sorry I'm really nervous and frantic.