In Washington State...
Hello. I'm sorry if this is not the right kind of thing to be asking you, but I am kind of experiencing a bit of a melt-down, so to speak, regarding the DV situation involving my ex bf and myself. I'm afraid to ask the dv advocate, because the last time I mentioned a matter to her it ended up opening the door to new charges for my ex. I DON'T BLAME THE ADVOCATE. I BLAME ME...but I have no one to talk to or ask this question of. I've been very alone. I've been treated like a liar by people I thought were mutual friends. I'm really lost and trying so hard not to just...I don't know. This all hurts. Being worthless to a man I loved hurt, the things he would say to me hurt, his repeatedly cheating on me in my home hurt, his little gonococcal lolita coming into my home hurt, his making me out to be crazy to our 'friends' hurt, what he did that final night hurt -- think it might've broke me. It hurt to involve the police, it hurts to have 'friends' make references that insinuate he's been railroaded. They didn't know about everything going on at home. I didn't want to make waves. I'm sorry. I already cancelled my last chat entry because I have been rambling and I saw that, so I cancelled it out to make this one shorter. My ex is facing dv assault, illegal imprisonment, violation of criminal n/c order, witness tampering.He bonded out the first time. Then the n/c thing and witness tampering happened. He went back to jail. Bonded out again. Now, for some reason, he's back in jail with the original charges listed as the reasoning. I thought maybe someone at your office might at least have a possible reasoning to help me make a bit of sense. I know you're not his attorney, but....and if it's stupid of me to be asking you for a guess, I apologize. Also, when he was out the second time, he really acted out and reversed the last two months of payments to the cellphone bill that he made, causing me to lose phone service. It wasn't his acct. Now, is that something I should report or not? I'm not a stupid person, but I have autism as a label, and so the subtle things get me. I'd not pester you with these two questions, but I don't have anyone else to ask, don't want to get him in more trouble, but now I'm not only dealing with regular bills on my own, but now no phone and a big bill that shouldn't be present, and I always paid the rent, but he'd pay the electric and then about four or five months ago, he decided to pay the cellphone bill, too, to make things more -- closer to -- even. Monies are an issue - now. Sorry. I see I'm starting to blather again. Just those two questions I asked up there, if you can decipher. Thank you for your time. agh, I'm a basket case. Every time I discuss this, I relive it. I've had to reiterate everything numerous times to Verizon and they just refer me to the fraud department and then fraud refers me back. I've been told they'll wave everything because of the dv and him accessing my acct to take back those payments, but then they act like their hands are tied because of the fraud flag, then fraud denies having a flag...then I call again, and have to explain it all over again. I can't even check voicemails. It goes straight to Verizon accts rec. agh! I'm doing it again. Sorry. I'm posting now and leaving it. Thank you for your time.
Hello. I'm sorry if this is not the right kind of thing to be asking you, but I am kind of experiencing a bit of a melt-down, so to speak, regarding the DV situation involving my ex bf and myself. I'm afraid to ask the dv advocate, because the last time I mentioned a matter to her it ended up opening the door to new charges for my ex. I DON'T BLAME THE ADVOCATE. I BLAME ME...but I have no one to talk to or ask this question of. I've been very alone. I've been treated like a liar by people I thought were mutual friends. I'm really lost and trying so hard not to just...I don't know. This all hurts. Being worthless to a man I loved hurt, the things he would say to me hurt, his repeatedly cheating on me in my home hurt, his little gonococcal lolita coming into my home hurt, his making me out to be crazy to our 'friends' hurt, what he did that final night hurt -- think it might've broke me. It hurt to involve the police, it hurts to have 'friends' make references that insinuate he's been railroaded. They didn't know about everything going on at home. I didn't want to make waves. I'm sorry. I already cancelled my last chat entry because I have been rambling and I saw that, so I cancelled it out to make this one shorter. My ex is facing dv assault, illegal imprisonment, violation of criminal n/c order, witness tampering.He bonded out the first time. Then the n/c thing and witness tampering happened. He went back to jail. Bonded out again. Now, for some reason, he's back in jail with the original charges listed as the reasoning. I thought maybe someone at your office might at least have a possible reasoning to help me make a bit of sense. I know you're not his attorney, but....and if it's stupid of me to be asking you for a guess, I apologize. Also, when he was out the second time, he really acted out and reversed the last two months of payments to the cellphone bill that he made, causing me to lose phone service. It wasn't his acct. Now, is that something I should report or not? I'm not a stupid person, but I have autism as a label, and so the subtle things get me. I'd not pester you with these two questions, but I don't have anyone else to ask, don't want to get him in more trouble, but now I'm not only dealing with regular bills on my own, but now no phone and a big bill that shouldn't be present, and I always paid the rent, but he'd pay the electric and then about four or five months ago, he decided to pay the cellphone bill, too, to make things more -- closer to -- even. Monies are an issue - now. Sorry. I see I'm starting to blather again. Just those two questions I asked up there, if you can decipher. Thank you for your time. agh, I'm a basket case. Every time I discuss this, I relive it. I've had to reiterate everything numerous times to Verizon and they just refer me to the fraud department and then fraud refers me back. I've been told they'll wave everything because of the dv and him accessing my acct to take back those payments, but then they act like their hands are tied because of the fraud flag, then fraud denies having a flag...then I call again, and have to explain it all over again. I can't even check voicemails. It goes straight to Verizon accts rec. agh! I'm doing it again. Sorry. I'm posting now and leaving it. Thank you for your time.
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