I do know I have not much time 2 Bella Trio right now my mind is trying to figure out what I should really do being the fact that I have kids involved and I know fat I wasn't innocent in all this eitherwe have been together for 6 years this is our first argument that has ever gotten this far usually walks away or he'll leave is all shocking to me and I've never seen him get this now I know people can change I don't believe that he'll ever go this far again but yet at the same time protect my kids and myself don't understand the protective order law and I don't know too much about the domestic violent part of the law I know that I didn't press charges at least I don't believe I did the cops never really did come out and asked me if I wanted to press charges on the paperwork for the protective order they wrote stuff down and I can't even read so I don't know what they put and it worries me because I don't want words put in my mouth that was not said
No people do not change. I hate to break it to you. I told myself that for the last four years. I never thought my ex husband would hit me. He never had before when I first met him. But he did - three times. The last time he almost killed me while our four month old was in the other room. But I still gave him another chance after that before I filed for divorce. He said he would quit drinking, go to rehab, get help for his drug addiction. He did after our divorce was final and his mom took him to rehab. He did rehab. He did halfway house. I gave him one more chance as he had seemed extremely serious about being sober. He relapsed when he got arrested for a crime from last year. People who abuse NEVER change. Ever.
You need to cut your losses for your sake and your kids' and walk away from him. Also - YOU do not get to press charges. The county attorney or DA gets to determine that. If they subpoena you, you have to testify or you go to jail.
They give you the emergency order so you are safe. If you want to get your own you have to go to the courthouse. They will help you with the paperwork. You will see a judge. The judge may or may not issue a temporary order and then set a date for the permanent. If you do not show up to court for the permanent, the temporary gets dropped. If you show up, you tell the judge why you need a permanent. Depending on the state is how long it is good for. Usually a year. You can put your kids on it too.
Also it is completely normal to blame yourself. I would think that too when he would do it. But it was not your fault. Unless you attacked him unprovoked and he was defending himself, then no it is not your fault he hit you or did whatever he did.
Go to the court. Ask to file a protection order. They will help you from there. Or don't. But the prosecutor can ask for an order for the duration of the case.