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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? ILLINOIS
My question involves restraining orders in the State of: Illinois
Long story short, my ex gf has filed a temp harassment order. Hearing is set for upcoming week. Its a no contact order with all the fixins. We met 1 year ago and now have a baby. My child is not named in the order. Alleged harassment stems from my suspicions of her infidelity stemming from her phone at her old apt being in an ex bfs name, lewd pictures in her cell phone and me recently phoning a mans number in her phone. The 3 of us have pretty much been together a full year and Ive been with my baby everyday since being born although the 3 of us didn't live together. In January she and the baby began living with me. One night in bed she told me that she was cheating. I became angry and she started a verbal altercation. She went to live with a relative for 3 days or so. When she returned she told me that she was joking about cheating but I was still angry. The next day I dialed a mans number in her phone and questioned him about suspected infidelity. She in turn became angry and dialed 911 and told the cops that I was blacking both her eyes and that she felt threatened. Upon arrival police found neither her or my child with any signs of physical abuse but I WAS taken into custody for a traffic warrant. The cops knew that the allegations of abuse were all horse crap. To my knowledge there are no past police reports concerning harassment or physical abuse by petitioner. The police asked her to leave my home as she was not on the lease. The next day when Im released from jail fro traffic warrant Im served with the harassment order which Im assuming was filed out of anger, vengeance, embarrassment, getting kicked out apt etc. The next day after being served I started to become concerned about our child so I phoned the local sheriff to ask if I could call one of her relatives about the well being of my child. The Sheriff confirmed that this was ok according to the order. After I began contacting her relative in regards to my baby the petitioner then began phoning and harassing me by leaving voice mails. This carried on for a couple days. One day I got a voice mail stating that my baby was in need of pampers, milk, money orders etc. I did not respond. About 2 days later I received a call from the petitioner stating that she forgives me and wants to reconcile and she invited me over for sex and for me to provide items for my child. Like a dumbass I go to see her. Her calling me to invite me to where she was staying which was listed on the order to bring items for my child, and petitioner and I having sex while order was issued lasted 4 days or so. She has now been calling everyday trying to get me over to the house she is staying and like a dumbass each time I go. The most recent calls involve her saying things like "forget the restraining order", "lets make up" "Im moving back in so add me to your lease" etc. Even having her mother to call me and blame everything on me. I know that I should've hung up phone and ignored her, and that technically I did violate by talking to her and making physical contact with her upon her request but I wanted to see my son and plus all kinds of emotions are being thrown around and I still care so I still went. Each time that she called asking for pampers, milk, sex, therapy, added to the lease, asking me to come over or her harassing me was voice recorded on my cell phone. I plan on bringing my cell phone to court. She has not made attempts to have restraining order lifted and hearing is set for the upcoming week. Now when she calls me she appears to be talking in circles and lying. Was this all a trick to have me incarcerated or the order entered? Am I going to jail? I don't have lawyer. what are the possible outcomes here
My question involves restraining orders in the State of: Illinois
Long story short, my ex gf has filed a temp harassment order. Hearing is set for upcoming week. Its a no contact order with all the fixins. We met 1 year ago and now have a baby. My child is not named in the order. Alleged harassment stems from my suspicions of her infidelity stemming from her phone at her old apt being in an ex bfs name, lewd pictures in her cell phone and me recently phoning a mans number in her phone. The 3 of us have pretty much been together a full year and Ive been with my baby everyday since being born although the 3 of us didn't live together. In January she and the baby began living with me. One night in bed she told me that she was cheating. I became angry and she started a verbal altercation. She went to live with a relative for 3 days or so. When she returned she told me that she was joking about cheating but I was still angry. The next day I dialed a mans number in her phone and questioned him about suspected infidelity. She in turn became angry and dialed 911 and told the cops that I was blacking both her eyes and that she felt threatened. Upon arrival police found neither her or my child with any signs of physical abuse but I WAS taken into custody for a traffic warrant. The cops knew that the allegations of abuse were all horse crap. To my knowledge there are no past police reports concerning harassment or physical abuse by petitioner. The police asked her to leave my home as she was not on the lease. The next day when Im released from jail fro traffic warrant Im served with the harassment order which Im assuming was filed out of anger, vengeance, embarrassment, getting kicked out apt etc. The next day after being served I started to become concerned about our child so I phoned the local sheriff to ask if I could call one of her relatives about the well being of my child. The Sheriff confirmed that this was ok according to the order. After I began contacting her relative in regards to my baby the petitioner then began phoning and harassing me by leaving voice mails. This carried on for a couple days. One day I got a voice mail stating that my baby was in need of pampers, milk, money orders etc. I did not respond. About 2 days later I received a call from the petitioner stating that she forgives me and wants to reconcile and she invited me over for sex and for me to provide items for my child. Like a dumbass I go to see her. Her calling me to invite me to where she was staying which was listed on the order to bring items for my child, and petitioner and I having sex while order was issued lasted 4 days or so. She has now been calling everyday trying to get me over to the house she is staying and like a dumbass each time I go. The most recent calls involve her saying things like "forget the restraining order", "lets make up" "Im moving back in so add me to your lease" etc. Even having her mother to call me and blame everything on me. I know that I should've hung up phone and ignored her, and that technically I did violate by talking to her and making physical contact with her upon her request but I wanted to see my son and plus all kinds of emotions are being thrown around and I still care so I still went. Each time that she called asking for pampers, milk, sex, therapy, added to the lease, asking me to come over or her harassing me was voice recorded on my cell phone. I plan on bringing my cell phone to court. She has not made attempts to have restraining order lifted and hearing is set for the upcoming week. Now when she calls me she appears to be talking in circles and lying. Was this all a trick to have me incarcerated or the order entered? Am I going to jail? I don't have lawyer. what are the possible outcomes here
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