I have also recieved conflicting info. Some sites say to keep track of all initiated contact by her as it will show the TRO has no basis and will be dismised and other sites tell me what your telling me. I have only recently researched this subject.
You should certainly document the times she has initiated contact with you - and how she did so, but understand that engaging her in conversation is effectively confessing to violating the no-contact order. Anything beyond, "I am not supposed to speak to you," might be sufficient to land you in the clink.
Thank you for the lesson. Can she violate me now or would she have had to violate me at the time of the event?
She can report it to the police at any time up to one year after the contact. However, unless it has recently happened (like in the last day) the police are not likely to arrest you but they may send it to the DA who might then issue a warrant for your arrest.
If this is a no contact order, she has you by the tender parts and can make you dance to her tune if she wants to. Cease any and all contact, do not speak to her, and if she calls let it go to voice mail and save them as evidence for use at a return to court to ask the order be dropped. If you can show that she is NOT afraid of you, the judge may agree to drop the order or modify it to peaceful contact. But, "peaceful contact" is only peaceful as long as she's happy. Once she gets mad, it is no longer peaceful and you may find yourself in handcuffs. Being the defendant in a TRO can be a very bad thing.
