Indiana...
I'll be concise if I can..
Girlfriend and I on the rocks and near the end of relationship. Decided to do a "time out"..
At home Saturday night, had a friend over (female).
Girlfriend drops over unannounced and uninvited. Community is gated but gate was apparently open.
She had been outside my window looking in and saw other woman there.
I go outside to see what was up and of course she was upset, verbally abusive...pushing me...understandable.
Said, "if she's JUST a friend, then I wanna meet her". Sure, why not, I'm a good guy, have nothing to hide.
I bring her in...she proceeds to verbally assault and insults my friend, racial epithets, the whole thing.
I asked my friend to leave, that this is a bad scene and I need to straighten things out with the girlfriend.
As soon as guest leaves - she punches me in the face.
I walk with her outside to have her move her car, trying to console her..she continues pushing, hitting me.
We go to her car and I begged her to park and sit and talk, tried to console her, and she hauls off hits me in the face, and in the flash, I slapped her open handed in the face and she fell to the ground.
I get her up, sit her on the stoop, then the cops come. My friend (guest) and my neighbor called 911.
They take a statement...she said "he hit me, I think he hit me".
They asked again, do you want to press charges...she's like "no, I just want to leave..."
She tried to leave and they ordered her to stop and turn her car off. After her pleading to the lady cop, they let her go and advised me to go back inside.
An hour later, her friend calls me, "you NEVER hit a female, no matter WHAT she does...we're calling the cops".
So from HER house they call the cops, again.
I called her friend back, trying to explain, and an officer answers the phone asking me did I flee the scene and I was like, "no I'm in my living room".
He told me that an officer would be by to see me. No one ever came.
I later spoke with the officer who went to her home and he said that they didn't send anyone back because they had already been there, taking statements and since she changed her story, they were just gonna turn it over to the detectives.
What I've learned now is this...
A neighbor videotaped the whole thing...her hitting me and me hitting her.
She's filed a Protective Order against me.
Don't know how the ex even got a hold of this footage (Detective, maybe), but why haven't I been contacted by anyone in Law Enforcement. I still haven't officially been served, (it shows online "Defendant hasn't been served yet")..very confused.
Questions:
Any thoughts...?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I'll be concise if I can..
Girlfriend and I on the rocks and near the end of relationship. Decided to do a "time out"..
At home Saturday night, had a friend over (female).
Girlfriend drops over unannounced and uninvited. Community is gated but gate was apparently open.
She had been outside my window looking in and saw other woman there.
I go outside to see what was up and of course she was upset, verbally abusive...pushing me...understandable.
Said, "if she's JUST a friend, then I wanna meet her". Sure, why not, I'm a good guy, have nothing to hide.
I bring her in...she proceeds to verbally assault and insults my friend, racial epithets, the whole thing.
I asked my friend to leave, that this is a bad scene and I need to straighten things out with the girlfriend.
As soon as guest leaves - she punches me in the face.
I walk with her outside to have her move her car, trying to console her..she continues pushing, hitting me.
We go to her car and I begged her to park and sit and talk, tried to console her, and she hauls off hits me in the face, and in the flash, I slapped her open handed in the face and she fell to the ground.
I get her up, sit her on the stoop, then the cops come. My friend (guest) and my neighbor called 911.
They take a statement...she said "he hit me, I think he hit me".
They asked again, do you want to press charges...she's like "no, I just want to leave..."
She tried to leave and they ordered her to stop and turn her car off. After her pleading to the lady cop, they let her go and advised me to go back inside.
An hour later, her friend calls me, "you NEVER hit a female, no matter WHAT she does...we're calling the cops".
So from HER house they call the cops, again.
I called her friend back, trying to explain, and an officer answers the phone asking me did I flee the scene and I was like, "no I'm in my living room".
He told me that an officer would be by to see me. No one ever came.
I later spoke with the officer who went to her home and he said that they didn't send anyone back because they had already been there, taking statements and since she changed her story, they were just gonna turn it over to the detectives.
What I've learned now is this...
A neighbor videotaped the whole thing...her hitting me and me hitting her.
She's filed a Protective Order against me.
Don't know how the ex even got a hold of this footage (Detective, maybe), but why haven't I been contacted by anyone in Law Enforcement. I still haven't officially been served, (it shows online "Defendant hasn't been served yet")..very confused.
Questions:
- If they have tape of me hitting her, then why haven't I been arrested and charged?
- Since she showed up at MY place and assaulted ME first, does that weigh into anything?
- Can I also file my OWN order against her?
Any thoughts...?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?