phoenixwingz
Junior Member
Regarding Domestic VIOLENCE/ State to State Terror, cyberstalking and phone threats
What is the name of your state? CA
Hi
I am California, the father of my 4 yr old is an abuser, he has been arrested for DV and has an open case for criminal threats, this has not stopped him from continuing to harass and threaten my life and the lives of my family member's he has even threatened our daughter when it suits him-yet he is obsessive with her too and has some kind of emotional incest thing for her-in fact none of his behaviors and thought patterns seem rational or sane. He has a personality disorder (Pathological Narcissism) for whichthere is no cure...and words are often to weak to define the fear I have of his behaviors. The "LAW" in (2) states has done very little to help and I have been referred to as a delusional drama queen. I have been told that I suffer from battered woman's syndrome and at this point I am afraid of him more than ever. In all these years I have never been able to just break it off like a normal break up because the actual breaking up is dangerous...On a recent trip to get my daughter from him in TX he beat me nearly beyond recognition and imprisoned me in the house with physical intimidation and mental torment, but i managed to leave with my daughter in March, during the time i was there he abused me several times and was observed by our daughter while saying 'say goodbye to Mommy" (who has seen it many times before)and his 2 adult brothers did nothing to stop him. I now have the courage to fight back and dont know what to do. Over the nearly 8 years we have known one another, he has beaten me unconsious many times, I have suffered broken bones, lacerations, he has raped me twice, locked me in more times that I can count and some of this even occured in front of my children and his daughter. When my daughter was in TX with him he threatened that if I did not marry him he would take her away forever and when i said I would call the police he would kill her. So I went to get her myself.
There have been many witnesses to the abuse and I have pictures and even recieved taped messages of threats on my voicemail including an "apologetic" confession to many of these crimes including the rape. But no cop even wants to hear it, i have been to the sheriff, the LAPD, and the Houston PD...who wont even take a crime report... What do I do with all this? The law enforcenment professionals seem unintrested in helping me and are condesending and even entertained because I seem paranoid...i am fighting for my life. He calls me and my family members all day and night, has threated the lives of my parents, and claims if I dont concede to return him, it will be worse; ie my kids. He even makes false reports to the sheriff about my parents who are elderly, but the police don't listen. My restraining order means nothing because he has me followed by friends and girlfriends that I cannot recognize because I dont know them but he always knows what I am wearing and where I am going, even the times I return. I have become afraid to leave the house and this can't be right. I have turned to the resources available in my area and there are pretty bogus. I am beginning to feel like I am crazy. I dont have the financial resources to hire a fancy attorney so what do I do? I feel like I am going to end up in a trunk at the bottom of a river or find one of my kids hurt or worse, the harassment and threats are constant ad unrelenting, i can't even believe he has the time for it, but it is stealing my life and my kids, i have relocated them away from me to keep them safe. I have a restraining order but it is a joke at this point.
this cannot be okay. please help with some advice that is really effective.
also I have a traffic warrant for a missed court date while I was being held against my will, in fact in all the years he has been around, he was so jealous he would not let me go too many places and often used things like that against me to hold over my head, and i am afraid that if I go to jail he will get custody of our daughter...and also because he becomes desperate when he cannot access me so if I were to go away...even to jail...he would see it a s a betrayal and attack my loved ones....please help with some advice.
BYRD IN THE HEARTSHAPED CAGE
What is the name of your state? CA
Hi
I am California, the father of my 4 yr old is an abuser, he has been arrested for DV and has an open case for criminal threats, this has not stopped him from continuing to harass and threaten my life and the lives of my family member's he has even threatened our daughter when it suits him-yet he is obsessive with her too and has some kind of emotional incest thing for her-in fact none of his behaviors and thought patterns seem rational or sane. He has a personality disorder (Pathological Narcissism) for whichthere is no cure...and words are often to weak to define the fear I have of his behaviors. The "LAW" in (2) states has done very little to help and I have been referred to as a delusional drama queen. I have been told that I suffer from battered woman's syndrome and at this point I am afraid of him more than ever. In all these years I have never been able to just break it off like a normal break up because the actual breaking up is dangerous...On a recent trip to get my daughter from him in TX he beat me nearly beyond recognition and imprisoned me in the house with physical intimidation and mental torment, but i managed to leave with my daughter in March, during the time i was there he abused me several times and was observed by our daughter while saying 'say goodbye to Mommy" (who has seen it many times before)and his 2 adult brothers did nothing to stop him. I now have the courage to fight back and dont know what to do. Over the nearly 8 years we have known one another, he has beaten me unconsious many times, I have suffered broken bones, lacerations, he has raped me twice, locked me in more times that I can count and some of this even occured in front of my children and his daughter. When my daughter was in TX with him he threatened that if I did not marry him he would take her away forever and when i said I would call the police he would kill her. So I went to get her myself.
There have been many witnesses to the abuse and I have pictures and even recieved taped messages of threats on my voicemail including an "apologetic" confession to many of these crimes including the rape. But no cop even wants to hear it, i have been to the sheriff, the LAPD, and the Houston PD...who wont even take a crime report... What do I do with all this? The law enforcenment professionals seem unintrested in helping me and are condesending and even entertained because I seem paranoid...i am fighting for my life. He calls me and my family members all day and night, has threated the lives of my parents, and claims if I dont concede to return him, it will be worse; ie my kids. He even makes false reports to the sheriff about my parents who are elderly, but the police don't listen. My restraining order means nothing because he has me followed by friends and girlfriends that I cannot recognize because I dont know them but he always knows what I am wearing and where I am going, even the times I return. I have become afraid to leave the house and this can't be right. I have turned to the resources available in my area and there are pretty bogus. I am beginning to feel like I am crazy. I dont have the financial resources to hire a fancy attorney so what do I do? I feel like I am going to end up in a trunk at the bottom of a river or find one of my kids hurt or worse, the harassment and threats are constant ad unrelenting, i can't even believe he has the time for it, but it is stealing my life and my kids, i have relocated them away from me to keep them safe. I have a restraining order but it is a joke at this point.
this cannot be okay. please help with some advice that is really effective.
also I have a traffic warrant for a missed court date while I was being held against my will, in fact in all the years he has been around, he was so jealous he would not let me go too many places and often used things like that against me to hold over my head, and i am afraid that if I go to jail he will get custody of our daughter...and also because he becomes desperate when he cannot access me so if I were to go away...even to jail...he would see it a s a betrayal and attack my loved ones....please help with some advice.
BYRD IN THE HEARTSHAPED CAGE
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