lilmisskrys
Junior Member
I'm in Washington state.
OK, here goes. I got a restraining order against my boyfriend (toddler son's dad) about 10 months ago because of a statement he made over the phone. Out of anger i told him that he's a waste of space and he should kill himself and he said out of anger that, "Fine, I will come to your door and do it in front of you!". That freaked me out so I got the order (he lives in the next state 3 hrs away). He has put his hands on me once before but we never went to court or anything for it and he has since been in anger management. The order comes off in 2 months. Well, since those 10 months, me and my son's father have been talking, seeing each other and having a relationship. Such a relationship that my son and I are going to move in with him. Since I got the order I have gotten a parenting plan established and full custody. My boyfriend was a loser at the time, and wasn't paying child support or anything but now he gives me money for our son and is a great guy.
Well, I put in a petition to vacate(remove) the order and I have to go to court and tell the judge why. I was going to tell them that I have heard from friends and family that he has really gotten his act together and I no longer feel that he is a threat to me and explain that out of the heat of the moment we both said things we shouldn't mean. Since, of course I can't just tell the judge that we have reconciled-right?
My mom brought it to my attention that they might see me taking the order off as putting myself and possibly my son in danger and order CPS to take my son! Is that true? Now I'm really worried and don't want to take the order off. But I plan on moving in with him next week and don't think it makes sense to move in with him if the restraining order is still in effect.
Also, if a judge denies an order, do they sign something that says they refused to lift the order, or do they just send you on your way?
OK, here goes. I got a restraining order against my boyfriend (toddler son's dad) about 10 months ago because of a statement he made over the phone. Out of anger i told him that he's a waste of space and he should kill himself and he said out of anger that, "Fine, I will come to your door and do it in front of you!". That freaked me out so I got the order (he lives in the next state 3 hrs away). He has put his hands on me once before but we never went to court or anything for it and he has since been in anger management. The order comes off in 2 months. Well, since those 10 months, me and my son's father have been talking, seeing each other and having a relationship. Such a relationship that my son and I are going to move in with him. Since I got the order I have gotten a parenting plan established and full custody. My boyfriend was a loser at the time, and wasn't paying child support or anything but now he gives me money for our son and is a great guy.
Well, I put in a petition to vacate(remove) the order and I have to go to court and tell the judge why. I was going to tell them that I have heard from friends and family that he has really gotten his act together and I no longer feel that he is a threat to me and explain that out of the heat of the moment we both said things we shouldn't mean. Since, of course I can't just tell the judge that we have reconciled-right?
My mom brought it to my attention that they might see me taking the order off as putting myself and possibly my son in danger and order CPS to take my son! Is that true? Now I'm really worried and don't want to take the order off. But I plan on moving in with him next week and don't think it makes sense to move in with him if the restraining order is still in effect.
Also, if a judge denies an order, do they sign something that says they refused to lift the order, or do they just send you on your way?